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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Tired right down to my core
just so exhausted mentally and physically
Im always needed, doing something for someone else all the time, and Im just so tired and then in the moments I do get to myself I feel bad for being on my own and having a couple hours to myself doesn’t really fix it anyway it’s deeper than that
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PaperdaisySenior Contributor
I hear you @ArraDreaming no real time for yourself. Is it the demands of parenting or just everything in general?
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
I think it’s that plus everything else @Paperdaisy
I think I have just gone beyond sleepy tired and just to complete exhaustion and agitated at everything, I dropped a glass tonight and it smashed in the dishwasher and that pissed me off, just stupid shit like that I just feel like my bucket is empty right now
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PaperdaisySenior Contributor
Gosh I did exactly the same thing this evening! It sounds like it's a build up of a lot of different things and it's becoming too much. I have felt like that, I understand how it is. What do you do to fill your bucket? I have just given myself permission to go to the gym again and I'm enjoying the time out. We each get our time out each day and then no-one has to feel guilty.. in my house that is anyway. We are in a similar boat with the 2 kids and with work, time is an issue! Sometimes it feels like you're giving so much of yourself to everyone else @ArraDreaming
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
And it’s just those little things and my partner was like oh calm down it’s just a glass and I’m just thinking it’s not just the glass, the glass triggered me to get pissed off because of the 100 other things going on in my head @Paperdaisy
We have started doing similar after the kids go down we have a couple of hours just solo time doing whatever and then 10pm (or sometimes earlier) I’ll like switch off my phone and we’ll watch tv together or something, I just don’t really have a thing, my partner goes to the gym or likes to sew clothes for the boys (amazing, I don’t have a creative bone in my body) in the evening and I just like oh yeah cool time to hang out on my own and do what? sit outside in my hammock on my phone, I think having time to do things where nobody else needs you is important but I don’t have a thing, and also when I’m not doing something I think about all the things that I need to get done
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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PaperdaisySenior Contributor
exactly @ArraDreaming and it's just one more thing to clean up!
Rest is so important.. mental rest where you don't have responsibilities or anyone relying on you. It can be so hard to switch off but if it allows you to function better when you're 'on' I reckon it's a good idea. Sitting outside in a hammock sounds nice but maybe ditch the phone cause that's not resting your brain.. do you ever meditate? Sometimes I find it really irritating but I'm feeling pumped to get back into it. Might be worth a try?
I'm heading off soon but I hope you take care and give yourself permission to some time out. You deserve it, you're a good Dad 😊
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Something about meditation that just doesn’t work for me, I don’t know why…
Thanks @Paperdaisy that means a lot, it can get hard sometkmesc
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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amber22Senior Contributor
Hey @ArraDreaming
I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner, but I want to let you know that I am sitting with you and hoping that you feel lighter soon.
It can be really pressuring when you feel as though everyone always needs you for something, you must be such a great support system for so many people that they need you so often for so many different things. How are you feeling now? ❤️ Here with you.
Amber22
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Hey @amber22
I’m ok just exhausted 🥱
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