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Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

CherryBombSenior Contributor21 Oct 2016, 4:34 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

Setting Boundaries

As carers we often hear and talk about the need to establish boundaries in our relationships. Boundaries can help keep relationships healthy. In fact, they are vital in relationships as they can help us feel empowered, respected and safe.

But how exactly do we maintain boundaries? How do we know what an appropriate boundary is? And more importantly, what can and what should we do when our boundaries have been crossed?

Join us Tuesday, November 22nd from 7 - 9 (AEDT) for some practical strategies and advice on setting boundaries. We'll be joined by Mental Illness Fellowship South Australia (MIFSA).

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3) Can't make the session? Leave a question below.

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

MurphyCasual Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:49 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

Heartfelt thanks to everyone tonight, to share your story takes a lot of courage. Your wisdom and knowledge has assisted me and your courage has inspired me. It can be such a hard journey, yet one that can be travelled.....when supported along the way. Wishing you all the best for the future and may we all be much kinder to ourselves. 🙂

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MIFSAsupportSenior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:51 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

@CherryBomb just wanted to chat quickly about the "Stages of Change" model, some of you will be familiar with it. It is a great tool to use when trying to impliment change in behaviour. Google it.

https://psychcentral.com/lib/stages-of-change/

A behaviour is usually called 'difficult' when it appears resistant to change, despite the carer offering encouragement, support, prompting, telling and becoming angry with the person.

Lack of motivation may be the obvious reason for some behaviours - however, it underpins making changes to any behaviour.

Motivational techniques can be helpful in moving a person towards change. For motivational techniques to be effective, we need to have an appreciation and understanding of the stage of change the person is at. Professionals often refer to a Stages of Change Model, to determine where an individual is in relation to the potential for behaviour change.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:52 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

Thankyou @CherryBomb, @MIFSAsupport, @Murphy, @Suzi, @CARING4CARERS, for a very interesting night

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MIFSAsupportSenior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:54 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

@Murphy I agree, well said.

Self care is vital, fill your own cup first. Especially when you hear the stats around carers becoming unwell.

Find something you enjoy doing and make time to do it often. Remember to have a laugh.

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CherryBombSenior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:56 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

@MIFSAsupport yes! that is a great tool. I find it useful to look at where we (as carers) may be, in comparison to our loved one. It's quite common to see that carers are ready for loved to take action, but their loved might be pre-comtemplative. This understanding helps to see where change can come from - ourselves.

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CherryBombSenior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 9:00 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

And that's a wrap! A big BIG thank you to @MIFSAsupport for your wisdom tonight, and of course our members, who make Topic Tuesday what it is.

Speaking of self care, stick around and have a (virtual) cuppa and bikkie in this thread. It's basically an online space, where carers can unwind and chat amongst themselves. Might see you there!

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