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Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

CherryBombSenior Contributor21 Oct 2016, 4:34 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

Setting Boundaries

As carers we often hear and talk about the need to establish boundaries in our relationships. Boundaries can help keep relationships healthy. In fact, they are vital in relationships as they can help us feel empowered, respected and safe.

But how exactly do we maintain boundaries? How do we know what an appropriate boundary is? And more importantly, what can and what should we do when our boundaries have been crossed?

Join us Tuesday, November 22nd from 7 - 9 (AEDT) for some practical strategies and advice on setting boundaries. We'll be joined by Mental Illness Fellowship South Australia (MIFSA).

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

Shaz51Senior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:34 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

thank you @MIFSAsupport, for your example

I didn`t relized until now what i did , but when we were first married , my husband has had Mi all his life and he would spend so much money on things which shows we were not getting ahead , so we had a talk about it , and we had open an account in which we put our spare coins in so he can buy things over the internet only using that acount ,

oh i see @MIFSAsupport, @CherryBomb, thank you '

yes, I need to look after myself more xx

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

MIFSAsupportSenior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:38 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

I believe the key things to remember before you even have a conversation with your loved about changing things are:

We dont have control over the person we care for, change something about yourself

We are not responsible for everthing

Are we doing things for our loved one that they could possibly be doing for themself

If we continue to do this our loved will get the message that they are not capable of doing things. This can make them defensive or angry.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

MIFSAsupportSenior Contributor22 Nov 2016, 8:40 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

also remember your effective communication skills. Good communication skills:

Enhance the relationship with the person you care for

Enhance the relationship with other family members and friends

Assist in setting and maintaining boundaries

Ensure that both party's needs are heard, accurate information is received and appropriate support is accessed

Promote empowerment in both carer and the person they care for.

In response to: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

SuziContributor22 Nov 2016, 8:40 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Setting Boundaries // 22 November 7 - 9pm AEDT

It can be hard to give back the respsponsibility though when you realise that you ave been care taking for a long time