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How2 - Stop Over thinking:

How2 - Stop Over thinking:


7 Effective Ways to Stop Overthinking

By Sharon Martin, LCSW

One of the symptoms of anxiety is “overthinking” or ruminating. People who overthink feel like they can’t “turn off” their brains. Once your brain latches onto a worry, it’s hard to break free of it. You can easily get caught in a thought loop where you replay every bad outcome imaginable. This, of course, isn’t useful. We all know that worrying doesn’t prevent bad things from happen. Instead, overthinking can negatively impact concentration, productivity, and sleep.

1.Write it down.
Writing works well to clear your mind, process your thoughts and feelings, and creates a “holding space” for your worries. When you write them down, you don’t have to hold them in your mind constantly.


2. Plan a time to worry.
For example, you can plan worry time for 8:00-8:15 daily. This way you know that you will have time to worry at 8:00. Whenever you notice you’re worrying or overthinking, redirect and remind yourself that you can think about this issue at 8:00, but until then you are focusing on other things. You may find that you do this repeatedly throughout the day; that’s OK. Just continue to remind yourself that worry time is at 8:00 and use the other strategies to help you stay on track.


3. Limit worrying to 15-30 minutes.
Overthinkers need to put boundaries around their worrying!
Now that you’ve scheduled time to think or write about your worries, you also want to set a pre-determined amount of time for it. It’s counter-productive to schedule worrying for 8:00 and not set an end time. It’s important to set a firm time limit because it can easily go on indefinitely unless you put some boundaries around it. I suggest 15 to 30 minutes. This is sufficient, but not so much time that is takes over your day.

4. Distract yourself.
Distraction is a simple and effective strategy that we all use. Sometimes we just need to find something else to do or think about to divert your attention. Often a more complex task works best, but work, talking to a friend, watching a funny video, reading, or music can do the trick.

5. Tell yourself firmly to stop.
Occasionally you may need to firmly tell yourself to stop thinking about something. The old trick of snapping a rubber band against your wrist serves the same purpose. It’s almost a wake-up call to startle you into thinking or acting differently. Splashing cold water on your face can work, too.

6. Determine if you can change it.
It’s useful to determine if there’s something you can do about your worries. If there is, do it. If not, recognize that it’s out of your control and all you can do is process and accept it – not change it.

7. Get Physical.
Physical activity is one of the best things that you can do for your mental health. Exercise releases endorphins in the brain that make you feel happier, calmer, and less stressed. Even better is to head outside for a little exercise. A change of scenery also helps refocus your thinking away from rumination and onto what’s right in front of you.

psychcentral.com

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Re: How2 - Stop Over thinking:

@BlueBay, @Former-Member, , thought you might get something out of the last post here

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Re: How2 - Stop Over thinking:

Thanks @Former-Member. I like the psych central articles. I've never been able to do worry time I'm afraid. Sometimes I try some of the others like telling myself to stop.

I'm sorry if I overstepped the mark just then. I hope you're ok. 🤗🤗🤗💜😊

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Great advice @Former-Member. I'm going to try a few of these and let you know what I find works for me.
Hope you are well

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Hi @Former-Member

Thanks for sharing - it's all great advice. I find writing things down help sometimes, depending on what the worry is. I am terrible for ruminating and worrying all the time about a lot of things. I don't know how I would go with setting up a 'worry time'. I've never tried it so I could give that a go. The only thing is though for me i would have to be very strict and strong with myself because how do i break the worrying all the time to a set time? (does that make sense)

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@BlueBay @Former-Member. A worry time line - I think you would need strong will power to keep to a ttime line.
Maybe initially while you are learning this new skill - you could have a support person - who advises time is up.
Alternatively - you could set a timer to go off after the alloted time & then maybe straight after - you make a coffee or hang out the washing - & then maybe do a short relaxation breath exercise - to totally clense you of any residual issues
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