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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 4:38 pm AEST

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Oh, sorry, @creative_writer, that must suck having a migraine. Is it any better than when it began?

Yeah, it's been alright. I'm going to cook dinner as I'll be speaking to my regular at KHL tonight, so that's good, especially with how I've been feeling the past few days.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 5:00 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8, a bit. I’ve been a bit burnt out. Ohhh, what are you making for dinner? I hope your KHL call goes well.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 5:03 pm AEST

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Pork stir fry with konjac noodles I'm trying to be really healthy, but I hope it's not too excessive as I haven't eaten much today @creative_writer

Yeah, same I hope so too. They are doing a trial soon and my counsellor picked me where there is an app and we get to schedule sessions and I won't have to go into the queue or call for 12 weeks so that will be good.

What are you having for dinner?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 5:28 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8, you need to re-energise yourself, but i totally understand with needing to be healthy, meds can unfortunately cause weight gain.

I might be having takeaway, I hope I can stomach it, migraines can cause nausea. But you know healing, it f***ing hurts, it’s so much more work than holding a full time job 😔

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 6:05 pm AEST

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Yes I've put on so much weight this year I'm to what I was in year 11. I lost a good amount in year 12 and kept that off till the end of last year and from starting the meds in the middle of the year I gain a bit.

I want to ask my pdoc if I should just come off them all together as I don't want to continue to gain weight @creative_writer

What will you have do you know? Oh, that's not good. What do you mean by the healing bit about a migraine or MH?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor05 Aug 2023, 6:22 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8, it’s worth raising that with the pdoc. Meds are often about pros and cons. They may also be other alternatives too.

Probably kebab. Healing from both migraines and MH. They both make it hard to do things, I can’t maintain the full uni load, I’m only enrolled in six units (2 include placement units) this year, and I’m not doing any volunteering (apart from placement) or working because my body is always so drained and exhausted. It’s like my capacity is so limited

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Having-HopeContributor05 Aug 2023, 6:38 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8

I just wanted to say I completely understand the frustration of having put on weight because of medicine - it's bad enough to feel awful inside, and it seems cruel that it has an external effect as well.

In any case, whatever choice you make, I think speaking to your doctor first is a good idea. They can help find a better balance for you with respect to MH, physical health, and medicine. And if they do end up suggesting you discontinue or swap a medicine, they can give you the right discontinuation method.

My mistake was going cold turkey on a medicine (frustrated with weight gain) that you're supposed to taper off! Tiny reductions in mg very very slowly over a long period is annoying an frustrating, but its definitely done for a good reason.

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tymeModerator05 Aug 2023, 6:39 pm AEST

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I agree with @creative_writer .

For me, I've put on weight as a result of meds, but the decision is, whether I was ready to be more careful with exercise and food in order to have a satisfied life, or to not have meds, lose weight nut have no quality of life. I chose the first. And I'm glad I did. @Birdofparadise8

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Having-HopeContributor05 Aug 2023, 6:42 pm AEST

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@creative_writer

I had a really similar feeling while at uni; between trying to manage my MH, trauma, and some pretty strong medicines, I know I struggled even though I don't have a strong memory of that time.

Have you spoken to some kind of student support office to seek accommodations? I found the Uni system to be one of the most understanding and accommodating with my MH challenges.

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tymeModerator05 Aug 2023, 6:51 pm AEST

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Hey @Having-Hope ,

Thanks for popping by! I think what you have shared is so valid. I absolutely agree with you.

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