Not Coping

Gladness @Shaz51. It's good to take time for ourselves 😌

Is everything okay @Shaz51.

Yeah hopefully it might help it depends if I get that or the placebo I suppose @Jynx

You all wouldn’t believe it my so called friend told me yesterday how she is going to swap from the Wednesday class to a different day because her friend is in it.

I just said oh okay, um sure that’s fine. Like why would she say that like am I not her friend isn’t it enough we are in the class together obviously not.

@Jynx @Shaz51 @outlander @tyme

Hrmmm @Birdofparadise8 - that's a bit awkies. How do you feel about it?

yes very much so @tyme

I don't know I was a bit shocked when she told me yesterday and my work colleagues said I need to get a new friend. I swear I have the worst track record with making friends.

I've been thinking, is it me? Does she just not want to be with me? I know she wanted to change for the day as it's her only class on Wednesday, so I showed her a couple of options, and then she said it's fine I'm going to see if I can get in with my friend "her name", but I have to check as the class is full.

I felt a bit gutted I guess. I don't think it was very nice.

I hear you @Birdofparadise8 . That's not very nice. At the same time, what/who do you classify as a friend? @Birdofparadise8 . When I used to say I didn't have friends, I really had to redefine having a 'friend' meant to me.

I'll continue this convo later. I'm over at the PGC at the moment. You are welcome to join 🙂

I guess I would say someone that is kind, caring, and just likes to have a good time. Someone I can turn to for help or support when things are tough. Someone to just sit and enjoy each other's company.

All good talk after. I won't be joining you tonight. I have a lot to do tonight. The research study thing I did today took longer than expected. I also had to get a blood test @tyme

Hey @tyme @Shaz51 @outlander @creative_writer @fluffylight @Jynx

How's everyone today?

@tyme @I’m currently doing same thing regarding reassessing and redefining what having a friend means to me.

Someone who calls me her friend can be very caring and supportive at times.

From start of last month some things aren’t right.

she does have medical condition which has negative impact on her cognitive ability and memory at times and I try to take this into consideration.

she has a long term friend who lives few hrs drive away near a country town and spends over night with her twice a year.

2nd time this year was mid last week and has said she came back relaxed. Couple days after getting home she made plans for her and I to go for drive in country in couple weeks plus finally visit local plant nursery she loves (has been talked about for few months). Yesterday she sent me message saying all plans with me are cancelled as is going to visit her long term friend for one over night stay in September and same in November and that we will catch up after that.

read the words, felt hurt and felt like 2nd class citizen.

We have lots of things in common, feel like we have known each other for years even though only met about 12mths ago and have been through highs and lows since meeting.

Wow @Former-Member . That sure sounds like a bit of @Birdofparadise8 's story. That idea of feeling like a '2nd class citizen' hurts to say the least.

There are people who'll say, "Find better friends".

Then there are other who'll say, "Who needs friends?"

For me, I don't think I've defined 'friend' well enough to be able to have any yet lol. To be honest, I don't really try because I'm quite happy with how life is for me right now 🙂

Heya @Birdofparadise8 !