Not Coping

Hi @amber22

Can you look at my previous post.

How are you?

Hey @Birdofparadise8 I see that you had a chat to your auntie this morning about what was going on and how you've been feeling. I think if you are worried she is going to tell your parents it might be worth bringing up how you don't want them to know. She is probably only caring and trying to do whats best for you but if you would prefer it to be left for just you and her to know then it's better to say that to her.

I am doing okay this morning, pretty exhausted and my back is really sore so just taking it easy today

Yeah okay, but what about the safety plan stuff she said she doesn't think that is going to help now @amber22

Hope your back gets better.

Thank you! @Birdofparadise8

How are you feeling about creating a new safety plan? I know that it is important to get some advice on it but if the safety plan is for you then it is really important to do what is best for you. How are you feeling about the whole conversation afterwards?

heya @Birdofparadise8, I agree with @amber22

I know for me, over my life, I've re-created a new safety plan quite a few times.

I find what I need changes often, and that's the nature of a safety plan: to help me create safety for now. And what we need to keep safe can change.

What do you think?

Yeah I guess but she said that it probably won’t help if I am at the stage I am in.

Um alright I guess it was over txt @amber22

okay @Former-Member

I will probably just fix it up and see what happens.

I think that it is always important to change up your safety plan especially if the feelings that you're experiencing are getting more challenging! @Birdofparadise8

In regard to talking to your aunty about confidentiality, it might be worth messaging her just so that you don't have to worry 🙂

She said she wouldn’t say anything and she understands all that as she works in MH.

I am more confused to why she would think a safety plan won’t help.

“I'm not disappointed Laura so again you don't need to apologies. It sounds like you are not fine Laura... And with moving to Melbourne the stresses that come with the move and also being alone only going to contribute to your thoughts of suicide. I'm not sure creating another safety plan will be enough at this stage”

That is what she said to me @amber22

Hmm that does sound very tricky to navigate, I personally think that safety plans are always important to have in place, but I respect that you and her seem very close as well. We have just emailed you if you're able to check your inbox soon, just wanting to make sure that you have the right support during this time ❤️@Birdofparadise8

heya @Birdofparadise8, it sounds like that was a bit hurtful? Im sorry.

It's so great that you're wanting to figure out if a safety plan can be supportive, but because of other factor, this convo is really difficult to have over the forums, in a public place. For the safety of everyone, I'm going to send you an email and ask the convo continue there @Birdofparadise8 ❤️

The best support for these kind of conversations would be over the phone I think. Would you be up for speaking to

• Kids Helpline
• Sane Drop-in

or somewhere else to speak about how a safety plan can be supportive for you?