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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Former-Member I think I’ll need a good amount of time before I jump into marriage, and that’s okay. I remember my cousin was initially engaged, broke it off and got engaged to someone more suitable afterwards. The right person matters. I just haven’t found a guy I feel safe with yet. But I am happy to hear you were able to experience a relationship where you did feel safe 💖

The pressure is on though, I am approaching my 30s and don’t have much longer left in my 20s.

It’s hard not to feel disgusted in myself at times, maybe the flashbacks don’t help. Taboo really does feed into the shame

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Hi @creative_writer

How are you?

With your talk of marriage and stuff, do you want kids? Are you dating someone?

I so do. When I was at the football last night, they were so cute in their little Carlton top.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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Hi @Birdofparadise8 today hasn’t been great with flashbacks.

I’m not dating and never have. Maybe one day when I come across someone I feel safe with. I do want to have a kid or two. I feel like time is ticking, if I want them, I’m probably better off having them sooner rather than later. I’m already 29, I’m getting old

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ENKELISenior Contributor

Re: Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8 so what can we do to help you feel less sad?
What is the diamond art you're doing?

Your room mates sound like typical college party kids but if you're not a party person it can be a nightmare. I had neighbours who used to party like that. One time they started at 8pm on Friday night and finished at 1pm the next day. We had to call the cops several times. One of the many things I don't miss about living with ex friend.

I need to get into a proper sleeping pattern.

I'm listening to MTV on Foxtel, currently playing 80's music. I remember when these songs came out. I feel old. Arggh!!! Lol!

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Ah, okay, I saw you mentioned body flashbacks. Can I ask what that involves?

Ah, yes, I'd also like to have kids around 30. You could get on the dating apps. @creative_writer

I don't know @ENKELI. I'm sorry. It's flowers. I haven't done much.

No, they don't drink and party. They are the opposite and stay in playing computer games.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 it involves reliving body sensations from trauma. That’s all I’m going to say on here.

The thing is, I just haven’t met any guys that make me feel safe enough. Nobody really makes me feel safe anyway, I don’t even fully feel safe in therapy

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ENKELISenior Contributor

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@creative_writer oh honey, I am so sorry you have been through that type of trauma. Once your "space" has been violated it is so hard to get it back.

You're in my thoughts and prayers lovely, and hope that someday soon you will feel comfortable in your own skin again.

Hugs 🤗😍

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ENKELISenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 ah yes you mentioned that they were gamers. To each their own I suppose but I couldn't imagine staying up until 1am playing a game.

Is there anything interesting on TV?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Oh okay, that sounds hard. I'm sorry @creative_writer

More like 3 or 4 @ENKELI

Tell me lies on Disney.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@ENKELI I appreciate your thoughts and prayers. Recovery is a long road, it’s going to be a while till I start feeling more comfortable in my skin again. I’m just trying to tell myself a romantic relationship will happen if it’s meant to. I rather wait for the right person than jump into a relationship. I know adopting a child is also always an option. My health is chaotic, don’t think I can do without meds. I hope today has been kind towards you 💖

@Birdofparadise8 our Disney subscription expired, then we sort of discontinued. We are all very busy with uni, I haven’t actually heard of that TV show
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