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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 2:52 pm AEDT

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I got the tickets @Former-Member @creative_writer

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creative_writerSenior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 2:53 pm AEDT

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@Former-Member I hope the appointments went okay. I have had a chaotic day. I don’t think I slept well last night, so the racing thoughts are probably worse now. My brain is like, less sleep=increased hyperactivity. It’s insane. When the racing thoughts happen, more trauma intrusive thoughts come in.

@Birdofparadise8 are you up to much this afternoon?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 3:23 pm AEDT

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I'm going to see the older person and rewrite a bit of my script.

@creative_writer you?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 3:54 pm AEDT

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Why is being on a tram with a whole heap of schoolkids make me feel triggers. It's like its reminding me what it would be like at 's reminding me what it would be like at school or on the bus.

@creative_writer @Former-Member @Snowie @ENKELI @Blackbird11 @Jynx

Or am I just being silly?

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SnowieSenior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 4:36 pm AEDT

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You certainly are not being silly @Birdofparadise8

We can get triggered from lots of different things. We can avoid what triggers us but sometimes we don't see it coming. It just happens.

I think the main thing is how to deal with it. I am assuming you got back to your place. Can you try and do some things to calm yourself down? What would help you now?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 4:52 pm AEDT

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No, I have to get another one I've just been to the nursing home.

Let's see what the next one is like @Snowie

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 4:55 pm AEDT

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Do you have any idea why it would trigger me. Like the tram was so full with a school @Snowie

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SnowieSenior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 5:01 pm AEDT

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We can get triggered by so many different things @Birdofparadise8 No two of us are ever the same.

Maybe it reminded you of a past trauma. Perhaps something earlier had triggered you and it just affected you at that point. It could be a mixture of different things.

I have been triggered by a perfume before. I still don't know why.

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JynxModerator26 Mar 2024, 5:01 pm AEDT

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@Birdofparadise8 you said yourself hun, being on a bus full of school kids reminds you of being at school, a traumatising time in your life. Triggers don't always make sense, but any environment, situation, or experience that reminds us of our trauma can initiate the fight/flight/freeze/fawn response. What do you find helpful to calm your nervous system when you're triggered?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor26 Mar 2024, 5:03 pm AEDT

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Mmm okay @Snowie

Something in the smell might have reminded you of something or someone.

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