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Not Coping

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Oh, I know very annoying. I thought people would be clean. They obviously haven't been taught very well.

@Snowie

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@Former-Member

What do you think of this one?

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/jad.12277

It's an RCT. I don't know why three-quarters of the ones I'm finding are quantitative rather than qualitative, which is what I needed, or other ones like RCT. Those links I sent for the appraisal are the only study types we can do.

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Just saw the photo @Birdofparadise8 It's not a big kitchen to start with so they really do need to put things away.

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It's very small and has all the appliances out as well.

Oh well, my parents said, is it really worth worrying about? I just don't like having a messy place. If it's messy, my mind is messy. If it's tidy, I am calm. For example, the hot plates need cleaning and vacuuming needs doing, the cupboards need wiping, and the toilet and shower need cleaning. I wonder if I am just supposed to do it all. The others don't seem to, and also need to wipe all the mirrors, sinks, etc. @Snowie

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I can understand that @Birdofparadise8 I hate having a messy house. Really gets on my nerves.

Perhaps your room mates just expect you to clean the place. They know if they leave it long enough that you will just do it.

Maybe a chore chart or something like that is needed. Have the chores listed and then a persons name next to them. It can change each week.

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Yeah, I guess. I'm just unsure how to tell them. I don't want to be rude. @Snowie

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@Birdofparadise8 Could you maybe say something like "lets do a chore chart so it is fair on everyone and you two are not doing too much". I know it implies that your room mates already do things but at least this way you are not saying that you have been doing everything, even though you have. They might accept it a bit more.

I am assuming that they are your room mates for the whole year and you can't be doing everything for the rest of the year. That is still a long period of time.

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Yes, the whole year @Snowie

That's a good way of putting it thank you.

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Hey @Birdofparadise8 how are you?
we are down in the Otways I was quickly just checking my phone while I have some reception because I’m waiting on a message from my sister she’s been unwell, bit worried about her
we are about to grab some lunch and probably keep driving and exploring after lunch
Lots of cute little towns around here and some nice bakeries

Kids have been amazing considering we got up early and they have had a rough week

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That would take me three hours to get there, hahaha.

I hope you're enjoying it. Did it take long to get there from where you are?

I'm sorry about your sister. I hope she will be okay. @ArraDreaming

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