Hey there @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺
that’s an interesting question, regarding knowing if we hold distorted perspectives… In my situation, I felt that I was holding myself to standards imposed by others, by default, but by which I would never be able to achieve. Trying to achieve unrealistic standards and changes based on other peoples negative behaviour towards me (bullying).. I finally realised that this was not actually my perspective - it was theirs, and I could build a different view or perspective of myself, based on what I knew about myself…
I knew I was a kind, helpful, and supportive person, with a sense of humour, and there were things I was very passionate about, like my education (self improvement), and building connections with people and places that looked at me and saw the good in me 🙂
Those lessons you speak of.. that is hard-earned lived experience my friend 🙂🌺💜
these experiences give you sooo much more insight into people and yourself at a much younger age than some people ever get the opportunity to learn (and of course, people shouldn’t have to learn by such harsh and harmful ways), and will actually give you skills beyond everyday life skills that you can use as a super-power later on, given enough time to come out from under the impact that this has had on you… I want to say that it’s hard to tell when things start to lift, but I did notice I was a bit more resilient, and a bit more loving towards myself in terms of not holding myself to these distortions that were projected onto me by others💜🙂
And one thing you’ve said which is so important is that you have us here on the forums - we have a brain and heart bank here of such valuable life and lived experience for you to call on, and I for one really care about your future as a young person. You have so much value, and I’m hoping you can start to see how much value you have from my eyes 🌺🙂🤗
