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I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.
Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.
I’m going to ask you again, who decided that will never happen for you? because it sure as hell looked like it would never happen for me, it somehow did and my wife is a catch
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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somehow puts up my bs all the time and is still here, poor thing
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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Yeah, no one did, I guess.
I'm just not optimistic about things right now. @ArraDreaming
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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Yep fair enough maybe I pushed you too far, just trying to challenge you…. @Birdofparadise8 food for thought maybe
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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I noticed you were @ArraDreaming
It's okay. There is just a lot going on around me and in my mind. I don't see how I will get over RO.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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Hey @ArraDreaming Great advice buddy 👍
In order to change one's minset @Birdofparadise8 we have to want to do so. Instead of saying you are likely going to cry can you say "crying is an option but I choose not to do so tonight"?
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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor
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What if I'm feeling like crying, though @Zoe7
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ENKELISenior Contributor
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@Birdofparadise8 how was dinner? Do you have a TV in your room and do you/parents pay for Disney etc, or is that provided by the Uni?
I always wanted to stay on campus when I was at Uni, I should have chosen NIDA instead of WAAPA.
I don't want to add to the discussion you're having with others, I feel I would probably say the wrong thing or confuse you so unless you ask my opinion I will keep mum about it okay?
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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See mate, I just don’t think having the same conversation about this is helpful for you you are just going in circles buddy, over and over, and I’m not saying this to upset you but you have to stop letting it consume your everything thought and conversation you are getting yourself into a spin over it, I get you are uosey but this is not helpful for you… not one thing. I’m going to leave this convo not because I’m angry or upset because I’m not, but I don’t feel like it’s beneficial to keep talking about your pain it’s ok to talk about it for sure that’s why we are here, but there comes a time where it’s not healthy. I’m going to, I have pushed you enough tonight and it’s not fair to keep going, I’m just spit balling some ideas 💡
Its late on a Sunday i have to go clean my house 😂 see what I did there
Cya buddy, please, take a rest from this for a little though.
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Zoe7Senior Contributor
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We are talking about during the day and early evening when you talk about it @Birdofparadise8 It becomes a pattern that you say you will likely cry at night and therefore your subconscious expects that to be the case. The more you can change that mindset, the less likely the crying will occur. Don't get me wrong, suppressing emotions is not always a great thing to do but when those emotions are persistent and negative, then we do need to change the patterns.
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