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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Blackbird11Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 4:54 pm AEDT

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Hey @Shaz51 😀

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Shaz51Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:00 pm AEDT

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how are you today @Blackbird11

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:06 pm AEDT

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My dad just sent me this photo of our fig tree. They are the first ones we have ever had. I can’t believe they finally grow when I’m not there to enjoy them. @Shaz51 @Blackbird11

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:15 pm AEDT

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Have I upset anyone or done something wrong?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:25 pm AEDT

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@Birdofparadise8, sorry to hear things haven’t been the best for you today. The fig tree looks lovely. You haven’t upset me. Why do you think you would have upset us? Might help to unpack what’s going on in your mind?

Hi @Blackbird and @Shaz51, how are you both doing?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:32 pm AEDT

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Well, I'll be honest, but this always seems to happen. This week I haven't posted as much as I nornaly always post to see how everyone is. I was hoping that maybe someone might think of me and say hello to me. I have mentioned how I feel really lonely, like no one cares about me because I never get any messages, not just on here but in my whole life.

I thought maybe people weren't talking to me because I'd done something wrong or upset everyone.

Please don't be mad at me for saying this. It's how I feel and I know everyone is busy. @creative_writer

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Shaz51Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:35 pm AEDT

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no @Birdofparadise8 you have done nothing wrong my friend , sitting with you and @creative_writer , @Blackbird11 , @Jynx , @tyme

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:38 pm AEDT

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I feel like I'm falling, everyone.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:42 pm AEDT

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@Birdofparadise8, I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling lonely on the forums and we all want to feel cared for and supported, it’s a natural human desire. I am wondering if these fears are coming from fear of abandonment. I’ve noticed on several occasions that you feel upset when others distance themselves from you for one reason or another. It’s not because they are upset with you, there can be many other reasons. I think it would be good idea to explore other supports you can access to have some of your needs met.

You certainty haven’t upset me. I do enjoy talking to you, but sometimes I do have other things going on. I haven’t been super well the past month in terms of mental health, and only feeling I’m getting on top of it now. Sometimes life does get busy with uni, and unfortunately it does eat at my time so I can’t spend as much time here, but I’ll be here whenever I can 💖

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor11 Feb 2024, 5:47 pm AEDT

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Thank you @creative_writer

Fear of abandonment. Hmm, maybe I should talk to my psych about that.

I suppose as well. Right now, I'm not as busy as I don't have work or uni, so I have a lot more downtime between the things I've been doing to keep busy.

Yeah, I know you've been struggling. I wasn't referring this to just you. It's good to hear you're getting on top of it. I do have the RO forums, but they are so different than here.

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