Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8 @ArraDreaming oh BOY do I have an inner monologue. It baffles me that some folks don't. It can be a blessing and a curse I suppose, if the monologue is mean. I found it super helpful to turn the monologue into a dialogue - start talking to the mean voice and reasoning with it, showing it compassion and how it is not logical at times. Definitely helps.

But yeah it's called aphantasia, I think it is related to neurodiverse brains at times. Have you ever looked into neurodiversity @Birdofparadise8 as a possibility for you? Jay and I are both very ADHD haha

My psych mentioning I have traits of being neurodivergent @Jynx

Not ADHD, though. I'm very organize, on time and I get my work done.m

You won't believe my friend is coming around soon, but he is bringing his friend as well. So I won't be able to have a very personal, meaningful chat with him @Jynx

I doubt a bit hug either.

Hello @Jynx , @ArraDreaming

Thanks for the tag @Birdofparadise8

@ENKELI , @Former-Member , @creative_writer

Hi @Shaz51

My husband and 3 stepsons have different degrees of ADHD

@ArraDreaming. @Birdofparadise8 , @Jynx

ADHD could still be worth looking into @Birdofparadise8 - I have many friends who went undiagnosed for years cos they didn't quite fit the 'traditional' mould for ADHD. Turns out they were masking really intensely, one of them even developed OCD traits as a form of masking; he was sooo organised - always on time, calendar all planned out, etc. - because he'd learned from a young age that if you can't do that, you're bad at life or some such.

And with getting work done, if it's something you're interested in then that makes sense! ADHD means having an 'interest-based nervous system', aka if I have to research stuff that interests me I'll get it done ahead of time, and thoroughly. If it doesn't, I struggle!

Have a read through these and see if it resonates, it's my fav way of looking at ADHD in a non-DSM-V context:

Three Pillars

1. Interest-Based Nervous System

2. Emotional Hyperarousal

3. Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria

Also good to note that neurodiversity comes in many varied forms, and doesn't look the same in everyone. ADHD is also underdiagnosed in women and AFAB people, because the symptoms often don't present as the typical 'boistrous and unable to sit still' stereotype.

@Shaz51 👋😁 good to see ya lovely!

Hahaha @ArraDreaming that reminds me of when I was in uni, one time I left something sooo last minute and decided the best way to motivate myself would be to set an alarm for like, 2am the night before, so that the urge to go back to sleep would motivate me to finish.

It was a presentation. It did not go well.

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