Not Coping

Hi @amber22

How are you?

Hey @Birdofparadise8 I'm going okay today thanks, how are you?? 🙂

That's good to hear @amber22

I went home today with my aunt to take some stuff back, so I don't have much to take tomorrow.

We also went out for a late brunch, which was nice. I'm just back at the hospital. I'm not feeling great.

Oh that sounds so nice, what did you have for brunch? @Birdofparadise8

I'm sorry you're not feeling great at the moment, is there anything you would like to chat about?

I had a pork benedict with potato hash, slow braised pork belly, hollandaise, roast vegetables and a poached egg @amber22.

I'm unsure how to explain what I'm thinking about, but I was talking to my aunt about something I got upset about on here, which is okay. I'm just not sure about when I feel distressed or something. My aunt said I would come on here, KHL, etc. I told her I have noticed that if I speak to a particular person on here, I feel that relief. This then minimises how I cope, feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness, and it could make me feel like I'm powerless and need someone else to help regulate me.

I'm not sure if that makes sense. I don't understand how I'm supposed to cope on my own, and that's why I reach out for support.

Also, I'm just generally sad and nervous about tomorrow.

Wow that sounds delicious!! @Birdofparadise8

Oh I totally get what you mean. Sometimes it's okay not to be able to do it yourself, and that's why supports exist so that you can lean on them when you need! Oftentimes, I find supports to be one of the most important parts of a recovery/ mental health journey because they really are the things that get you through, so knowing that you do have places to go when you're feeling down isn't bad at all, it's amazing!!

You don't have to cope on your own for now, it's good to lean on others, and others appreciate it when you lean on them too 💘

What's happening tomorrow that you're nervous about?

I feel that way too, but my aunt is saying when I'm relying on others so much, it can make me then feel worse in the long run by thinking I've got to talk to someone or I won't be able to cope. If I can't cope without someone it can make me feel worthless, hopeless and unempowered, she said @amber22

What do you think?

I understand where she is coming from, but there are definitely periods in our lives where we need to rely on the people around us more than other times.

While you lean on others for support, it's a good idea to start to write in your notes things that might help you as well - such as journalling, or watching something, or anything that might help you to feel okay (even if it's only for a few minutes) so that you are aware that there are things you can do for yourself if you really needed.

But like I said, supports are there for a reason!! And the supports that help you care for you a lot, and want to be there for you @Birdofparadise8 That's what supports are there for 💘

I'm going home tomorrow so I'm scared about that @amber22

Thank you I've just been thinking about it a lot and I was wondering if I was leaning on things too much or what. Like am I on here to often I don't know. I don't want to burden anyone.

No definitely not! You're welcome on here as much as you would like, it is much better that you're reaching out for support and help than staying silent!

Ohh I see, I hope it goes okay for you, sending you hugs for tomorrow @Birdofparadise8