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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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tymeModerator

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I'm speaking from someone who has been in hospitals MANY times @creative_writer .

However, ultimately, it's each to their own. No one can make anyone do anything.

Hugs @creative_writer - hope you are okay.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@tyme, that is true that it requires a lot of work. It’s also about being ready and the right supports. I’ve found looking at psych specialisations helpful in determining who might be a suitable fit. Both psychotherapy and meds require adherence and commitment.

I’ve been a bit down, I think I’ve just been sick, it kind of knocks you out. Being sick but pushing myself with uni has left me feeling burnt out. Annoying physical flashbacks didn’t help either. I am getting through it. How are you? 🫂

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Blackbird11Senior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 I went travelling south of where I live and hunting orchids in nature. Sorry to hear that you are sad and lonely. I put my hand on my heart and feel it beating, with every beat I hear you are alive, you are important and you are loved... you have purpose.

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tymeModerator

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I can hear you are speaking from experience @creative_writer . It's true. One has to be ready. Otherwise being offered the best supports will be to no avail. I certainly know that was true for me.

All the best with uni. I was looking at doing another course in Change management. However, I don't know if I can fit uni in at the moment.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor

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@tyme, also having good company is important, who can keep you accountable. Like my mum has had moments when she had to talk sense into me because I was edging towards impulsive sprees.

The benefit with uni is, you can do it at your own pace and start at any time. Even if it’s hard to fit it in now, you can always look into it in the future. My psych is doing her second PhD as a mature student

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tymeModerator

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I love learning, but I don't want to stress myself with too much @creative_writer

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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hi @Birdofparadise8 i hope the time your spending in hospital is helpful and your getting the help that you need

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Hi @outlander

Nice to hear from you.

How are you?

I've been very lonely and sad, but that's fine. I've been to a couple of groups and been busy with uni. I have been talking with my aunt and uncle, and I also met with them and my parents yesterday over Zoom to tell them what I did to end up in the hospital. It actually didn't go as badly as I thought.

I won't be having ECT at this stage with exams coming up, but if I am still feeling as bad as I am, I can look at coming back after uni has finished for the year to have the treatment. I have had a med increase with two of my meds and I've also started a new one as well.

I am sorry for not being on here over the past week or so. I thought it would be best if I left as I was pretty upset with a few comments made.

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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That’s really good about speaking to your family about what happened more recently and that it didn’t go as bad as you thought. I do hope they are supporting you in the way you need @Birdofparadise8

It’s good you’re getting out to some groups. I hope you’ll be able to build some connections in the offline world so it’ll help with the loneliness

How long does your uni exams go for? Does this mean you’ll be finished uni after these ones or just finished for the year?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Mmm, that is questionable with my parents. I talked to my Mum after, and she just wouldn't listen.

Yeah, well, I might be going on a date this week.

I have three, one on the 3rd of November, the 13th and 14th.

No, I still got two years of my bachelor's and two years of my master's.

I might be getting discharged next week, but I'm a bit scared to go home as I won't have any uni or work. I still haven't got a new job yet. I just don't want to have a bad night and try again @outlander

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