Not Coping

defusion @tyme?

What is it supposed to do?

hmm... I would have guessed a 1st consultation is not the occaision to challenge a new client, @Birdofparadise8

In one way I can see how confronting that can be. On the other hand, it might be reassuring that he's willing to jump right in with you and not waste time...

How did you feel about it?

It's something I struggle with too @Birdofparadise8 but @tyme is right, it takes practice! I mean they're called 'feelings' after all. Using body-scanning is a good way to start - taking the time to sit quietly and tune into your felt sense of the present moment, and how things feel within your physical self. I was surprised by how often just taking the time to sit and tune in helped me to identify tension, or to notice the knot in my stomach or the tightness in my throat. Then I was better able to notice my emotions arising before they got the better of me!

I know right @Kyle1

Sraight in the deep end. Maybe it's because I am so suicidal that might be why or it's just how he works. I don't think I mind it though. I need a challenge haha.

What was yours like?

Mmm okay @Jynx

I get all the anxiety ones as they give of physical symptoms where I just can't fine anything for being sad. It's like a wave that washes over me, but it's not like I feel it in my arm or foot or something like that.

I had the majority of my MBT treatment in Richmond years ago, but no, my current psych isn't there @Birdofparadise8 .

As for knowing where your emotions are, it helps you see your emotions as seperate to you. This means you are NOT your feelings - that's defusion. It helps you recognise them as a spectator and not a part of you which gives you space between the emotion and you 🙂

The psych made a point to note out every time I laughed about something @Jynx @Kyle1 @tyme @outlander

It wasn't the most appropriate because it is a defence mechanism. That was a bit annoying.

LOL, 'it's not in my arm or foot' or anything @Birdofparadise8 - my emotions usually sit in my chest or my stomach. Then you describe it - its colour, shape, weight, size, texture.

It makes a huge difference when you are in the thick of things.

Oh okay that sounds tricky @tyme

Oh right that stuff @tyme

I really don't like that.

I remember we discussed it a while ago. My sadness is a big black dark ball.