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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Kyle1Senior Contributor

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tymeModerator

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Hang on, are we jumping to conclusions? @Birdofparadise8 ?

Did they say they are firing you?

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outlanderSenior Contributor

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@Birdofparadise8 @tyme is right, you arent totally sure what the meeting is for. if your getting let go then take it as it comes, ask for feedback and get something out of the meeting.
or they may have even be reconsidering and want to give you the chance to give you corrects so you can apply them in your work.

either way youve said so yourself that its a hard environment for you to be in. it sounds quite toxic from what youve said but youll need to wait for the meeting to find out. normally they also wont schedule you a shift the time after the meeting if your being let go. they would have already cancelled it

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tymeModerator

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Also @Birdofparadise8 , IF they let you go, they are probably doing you a favour 🙂

You are too employable 🙂 See that as a positive.

Go into that meeting, take what they say, chew on it. If you want to do something about it, ask them to write their grievances in writing. Don't feel you need to justify yourself about anything there and then.

At the same time, take away the pre-empting. I recognise that it is probably eating you up in that they keep pushing the meeting back, yet it's also giving you buying time to secure a new job.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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I'm pretty sure they are @tyme

@outlander they said they would give me one weeks notice

Oh well I'll have to wait and see @tyme @outlander

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tymeModerator

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Yeah, just wait and see @Birdofparadise8 . I know waiting is not easy, but they way you wait can also determine how you see the result.

That is, are you going to wait and see whatever happens as an opportunity?

Or are you going to take it that you have 'failed'?

Naturally, we would probably tell ourselves how 'bad' we are. Yet at the same time, it means it is an opportunity for you to challenge the unhelpful thoughts and seize the moment as something to help you grow as a person and a professional. Trust me, even as a professional in your field, you'd have crap days too.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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Yeah I feel so bad that I've done something wrong @tyme

Oh well I'll have to live with it.

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tymeModerator

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I've done many 'wrong' things... @Birdofparadise8 . I've made mistakes. I was only speaking to someone today that I'd rather be told straight out that I've done something wrong so I can correct it and learn from it, rather it be spoken about behind my back.

I like your attitude, "Oh well I'll have to live with it". See it as an opportunity. Live with it in a way that you have bettered yourself because of it.

Why let your workplace have an ongoing hold over you? Totally not worth it.

Hope you are doing okay at work and the rest of your shift is smooth.

If we don't chat again tonight, we can chat over the weekend at some point.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor

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A learning curve for sure @tyme

Mmm I finish at 10. I'm feeling pretty sad, but hopefully not as bad as last night that was awful.

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tymeModerator

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I'm hopping off now, but we can chat over the weekend. Be proactive and have things in place for when you go home. Don't leave yourself space to ponder and ruminate. @Birdofparadise8

You can do it 🙂

I know you can.

Have a safe trip home.

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