Not Coping

100% @Birdofparadise8 . If I were you, I wouldn't want to stay there. I agree that I'd want it over and done with.

As I said, you are 100%+ employable. There is such a huge vacancy rate EVERYWHERE. You could hop to anything you want. And don't worry about putting this workplace on your CV. It's not worth the few months if they ask for a reference. What do you think?

I've already had three interviews @tyme. I didn't get one so far, but I've found another two jobs to apply for if I don't get either of the other two.

I've already put it on there, but I've got my two bosses from my old jobs.

Yeah, you wouldn't probably want them to do a referee check on the one in Vic. They will find it odd if you give them referees for jobs in Tassie and not Vic @Birdofparadise8 . Don't you think?

I've been on many interview panels, and I remember once, the main interviewer asked the interviewee for a non-nominated referee and asked why they haven't listed their current workplace as a referee. So the interviewer pretty much said, 'I'm going to contact them'. So no.... he never got the job.

Anyway, absolutely your choice to make. I just hope your current workplace doesn't hinder you from moving on.

My uncle said not to put down my current work at then they know I want to leave.

I had to use my Tassie ones that's all I've got @tyme

LOL. That's the truth. You do want to leave @Birdofparadise8

Yeah, I'd say don't put them down. But if they want a non-nominated referee and you have put down your current workplace that you work there (which you have put down, right?), then they can call if they want.

But don't stress. It's not as though you are unemployable 🙂 @Birdofparadise8 I reckon people would take you any day.

hahaha let's hope so @tyme

Would you believe I'm not feeling as bad now? Shock, I know. Who would guess the high distress would pass? Still not feeling amazing, but I'm not sitting here sobbing on the floor with my computer next to me trying to type, haha.

I know @Birdofparadise8 . Sitting in the thick of things is so hard, but telling yourself it will eventually pass is even harder. Just keep doing it.

I want to say, "Don't give in to the unpleasantness", but I don't want you to take it the wrong way as text communication can be hard sometimes.

Honestly, I believe in you. I believe that YOU can do it. Not anyone else, but YOU. We can walk alongside you, but NO ONE - not KHL, not SANE, not RO can actually do it for you.

Write your story the way you want. Don't let depression write it for you 🙂

Well, it worked, I guess @tyme

Yeah, it can be tricky. You did mention before about unpleasantness. So don't don't give in? You said to sit in it.

Yeah, I know, I'll get there one day.

If I were to write your story, I'd say that you'd end up doing really well in your studies, you finally settle with someone, might have kids, and you use your own life journey to help and support others. It's made you a more compassionate person @Birdofparadise8 .

(By the way, this is MY made-up story. It might be totally different yours.)

The way I wanted my story to pan out as a young person was definitely so different to what it is today. In my youth, I thought I'd have 4 kids, big car to fit everyone, and a hubby named Luke... lo and behold, none of that happened, and I'm glad it didn't coz things are so good for me right now. there are crap moments sometimes, but life's great 🙂

And I know yours will be too.