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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor22 Aug 2023, 2:45 pm AEST

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Hey @Jynx

Did you end up making the salad?

Hi @creative_writer @outlander @Shaz51 @Kyle1

How has everyone’s day been.

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JynxModerator22 Aug 2023, 3:22 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 Nah not yet, I've been having a flare up of my LPR (aka silent reflux) so I've gotta have really bland food for a lil while, so I've saved the recipe for later! Gonna make myself a good ol' fashioned chicken soup instead haha.

How was your day, did you go for a nice walk yet?

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor22 Aug 2023, 3:40 pm AEST

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No it’s been pouring with rain.

Your in Vic right? Have you not been outside @Jynx?

I was going to go to a cookie shop in Northcote but the eating part of my brain won’t let me. So I went to the shop to get some strawberries and some rolls instead. I went around looking for something sweet but I couldn’t justify it. I’m trying to not cry lol. My brain is fucked. Im fucked.

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JynxModerator22 Aug 2023, 3:56 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 The words we use create our world hun. Do you think there's another way you could frame/phrase that, but with more self-compssion? It's rough to have such intense thoughts around wanting to treat yourself, I have 100% been there before. You don't deserve such strong words to be said about yourself when struggling with this though.

As for the rain - yeah I totally went out in it! Not for too long, but I legit love walking in the rain. It's so peaceful. If you have even a semi-decent rain jacket, I would highly recommend!

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor22 Aug 2023, 4:04 pm AEST

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I don't think I said that right @Jynx

One good thing is that I'm meeting for an intake appointment tomorrow with the community MH.

Mmm, reframing it. I'm not fucked and deserve to eat. Though do I really believe that?

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JynxModerator22 Aug 2023, 4:17 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 maybe you don't believe it right now, but that's okay. It's more about the repetition, about building new habits in the way you talk to yourself. Over time, you get better and better at catching yourself when your brain says something mean to you. You get better and better at responding to those thoughts and saying something kind in return. Over time, through repetition, you start to notice that you do actually believe it. But the point is you gotta keep practicing. So kudos! You did a positive affirmation. It might not feel like much, and you might not believe it right now, but you still did it.

Good luck with your appt! I hope it provides you with good support and reassurance 😊

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor22 Aug 2023, 4:20 pm AEST

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Yeah I guess @Jynx

It's just hard.

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creative_writerSenior Contributor22 Aug 2023, 4:27 pm AEST

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Hey @Birdofparadise8, I hope you feel better soon ❤️ . my brain has been on a loop, thinking of other addictive and destructive ways to cope. I've never been addicted to this thing yet I am craving it, I know it'll make me feel better, because when I used it for migraines it helped both the physical and emotional pain. I know it's a dangerous road, but sometimes you feel desperate.

Hi @Jynx ❤️ , I hope the reflux settles, do you have much planned for today

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JynxModerator22 Aug 2023, 4:31 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 yeah hun, it is hard. It's a long n difficult road. But I can tell you now that it is so, so worth the effort.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor22 Aug 2023, 4:32 pm AEST

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Hi @creative_writer

I hope you're okay.

Thank you though I don't know what to do.

Are you having a lot of migraines?

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