Not Coping

@Birdofparadise8 that is rough hun, I'm sorry to hear it. Perhaps that is a good opportunity to practice self-compassion though. Guilt can tell us about our values and about what we might want to change about ourselves. It can be a teacher - but the idea is that once you receive the lesson, you let the guilt go.

Taking a bit of time for reflection, you could ask yourself things like:

What sort of thoughts and actions lead me to make a choice I regret?

If I was faced with this choice again, what might I do differently?

If a friend did this, how might I reassure them or forgive them?

We're all doing the best we can with what we have at the time, so whatever it is, I can imagine you made the choice for a reason, and it's something to explore, rather than punish yourself over 😉💜

People won't be happy I did it @Jynx it's about my eating. I shouldn't have done it, but I'll probably still do it.

I talked to my regular at KHL. I'm not sure I told you, but if I did, sorry. She said she is happy I told her, but she is worried, and she also doesn't know a whole lot about it, so I'm not sure where we will go from there. I'll tell my psych on Wednesday and maybe she might be able to talk to her and they might be able to come up with something.

I don't think a friend would tell me they did what I did. I'm not sure if you can read between the lines. I don't want to say the wrong thing.

@Birdofparadise8 Obviously a lot is going on for you at the moment hun but it's great that you are able to be open with your supports about it. I think those reflection questions could still be useful, if you wanted to take the time to sit with it - whenever you are feeling up to it of course.

You'd be surprised, friends share all sorts of things when they feel like they can be open and vulnerable. But the idea of the question is not around whether or not someone might do so, it's about developing the skill of self-reassurance. If someone came to you with this, what might you say? If you open up to someone about this, what would be helpful for you to hear? The answers to those questions can then become helpful affirmations or something to write down to refer back to in times of distress.

I guess I would need a friend @Jynx none really here in vic.

My friends at dancing were very open. We would talk about suicide and self-harm. Three of us all have depression, and we bond with it, hahaha. We had a mcflury Thursday before class, and it was our therapy session.

But this is something a bit different I feel people keep it a secret more.

I don't even know what I would say. I don't even know why I'm doing it, let alone what to say about it.

Glad you've got those friends hun, they sound like good people @Birdofparadise8.

It sounds like this is all pretty new for you, so I reckon it's good to take it slow, talk about it when you're ready, and yeah, definitely worth exploring it more with your psych/regular at KHL.

I only see them when I go home to Tassie @Jynx

Yes very much so it's come on very fast and a lot has changed in my mind.

Hey @creative_writer

How are you?

Has your cough gone yet?

@Birdofparadise8 one step at a time hun.

How do you think your friends in Tassie would respond if you told them what was going on?