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Not Coping

Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor08 Nov 2022, 6:51 pm AEDT

Not Coping

Hey everyone how are you all?

@RiverSeal @Shaz51 @NatureLover @tyme @Former-Member @Eve7 @Former-Member @amber22 @Jynx @FloatingFeather

I'm not doing great at all today. I'm feeling down. I also keep beating myself up for everything and feel like I'm just failing. I need a break from everything. It's getting so hard that I don't know how to keep going anymore especially since I can't talk to anyone around me as they are leaving me or don't understand.

Hope you don’t mind me reaching out I just really need a chat and though I could come on here and vent and talk for a bit.

Thank you

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor07 Aug 2023, 4:11 pm AEST

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Hi @Jynx

I'm really sad, and I just want it to go away.

How are you?

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JynxModerator07 Aug 2023, 4:16 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 ever heard they saying, "What we resist, persists"? Totally understandable you just want to stop feeling this way, but sometimes that can get us stuck in loops. Sometimes when I'm sad, I just have to let myself be sad. Sink into it, greet it like an old friend, and allow it to be part of me, for as long as it needs to be. I know it's hard when it feels like it's never-ending, but the more I've pushed against it, the more it sticks its heels in.

I'm doing alright today, just trying to take it easy 😊

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor07 Aug 2023, 4:27 pm AEST

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No, I haven't heard of that @Jynx

I feel it's just always there, but some days worse than others.

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JynxModerator07 Aug 2023, 4:40 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 aye, I know that feeling very well. Like a bad smell that lingers, or an unwanted companion who won't leave you be.

You have managed to survive 100% of the days you've felt like this in the past, and you can do so again.

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor07 Aug 2023, 4:52 pm AEST

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That's true. What's a few more @Jynx?

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JynxModerator07 Aug 2023, 4:59 pm AEST

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It's a tough road @Birdofparadise8 for sure. But to my mind you're taking it in your stride and continuing on forward. So mad kudos.

What have you got on for the rest of the week?

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creative_writerSenior Contributor07 Aug 2023, 5:00 pm AEST

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@Birdofparadise8 💖🫂

@Jynx, I feel desperate, my mind is looking for self-destructive ways to cope. I know if I go on this path, I risk becoming addicted

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor07 Aug 2023, 5:01 pm AEST

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Uni, work and bike riding. Also seeing my aunt, uncle, pop, cousin and her husband for dinner on Saturday @Jynx

What about yourself?

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JynxModerator07 Aug 2023, 5:10 pm AEST

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@creative_writer it's good that you've got that sense of caution and hesitation. Whilst it might be suuuper painful to sit in that space and not reach for those things that you know to have the potential for a lot of harm, I imagine you also know that going down that path might make things feel a little better in the short run, but 1000x worse in the long run.

What have you already been using as coping strategies today?

@Birdofparadise8 Sounds super nice! Love all the activity hehe. Are you excited to hang with the fam? I'm also hanging with my fam! I'm up in NSW atm staying with my mum, dad, sister, and nephew. They live right near the beach so it's super lovely to get out of the city for a while and soak up some of that big blue 😊

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Birdofparadise8Senior Contributor07 Aug 2023, 5:11 pm AEST

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Yes I haven't seen my aunt and uncle for like a month and the others for about two @Jynx

Are you enjoying it?

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