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afterhoursSenior Contributor
Big Need to feel connected but people don’t understand unless they have experienced similar—- and there’s a danger of alienating them by burdening too much with my fear and neediness and depression.
I think that just a few words”‘in the moment” when things feel too hard, would help express genuine feeling and maybe bring a little bit of human contact — just a few words would help ,.
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tymeModerator
I hear you @afterhours .
Your perspective is incredible.
Connecting and a sense of belonging keeps us going. You are worthy of this and deserve it.
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afterhoursSenior Contributor
@Paulette
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M_P90Senior Contributor
"Big Need to feel connected but people don’t understand unless they have experienced similar—- and there’s a danger of alienating them by burdening too much with my fear and neediness and depression."
Wow, I had to double check I didn't write this myself. Sharing from my journal entry today:
Sometimes I hate to name what I suspect might be the real problem: Loneliness. I’ve always felt such shame around being lonely, like I’ve done something shameful to be an outcast. The worse your well-being and mental health becomes, the harder it is to connect. 'Normal'/'healthy' people find you insufferably negative and burdensome, and the cycle of loneliness continues. You can keep some 'normal'/'healthy' people around but only with constant and vigilant editing. You can't mention your mental health or complex trauma, you can't talk about passive suicidal ideation, or an eating disorder. "It's too heavy", "it's too much to handle". I am EXHAUSTED by the editing. No wonder I often need to retreat, I am too tired to hide.
With you there, buddy. It's so frigging hard and difficult, and there are no easy answers. I wish there were.
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tymeModerator
Thank you @M_P90 for trusting us enough to share your true, innermost thoughts, feelings, insecurities and vulnerabilities.
It reminds others (including myself), that I am not alone in my loneliness.
Thank you, tyme
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KrishnaSenior Contributor
Hey @afterhours sending some human contact your way. I hope you find some peace knowing you’re not alone with this 🙏
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PauletteSenior Contributor
Hi @afterhours ,
I most definitely received your message. Thankyou. It's best to just add @in front of the member you wish to address as your message is more direct this way. I am grateful and I do wish you much support. Please don't worry about your lack of tech, I too am the same. We all learn in time.
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afterhoursSenior Contributor
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Help us push aside the stigma and discrimination surrounding complex mental health and change the way people talk about, and care for, mental illness.
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