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Hi, I'm a young woman in love with a man who has schizophrenia. We were together for just 5 months before I discovered his condition. We are complicated and thus are finding it hard to find understanding, empathy or guidance. In this forum I'm looking for community, understanding and support for myself and any information I can to help him when he asks. Right now some people have spread ugly untrue lies about me that in his current state he believes and presently won't talk to me. I am hoping to find others like me, not willing to give up simply because he has this condition. To find other partners of those with his condition. I think I'll find the best understanding and support with those that know what it's like to be in a romantic relationship with someone with his condition. Someone who can understand my frustration, my fears, my desperate need for knowledge and perhaps give advice on things that they themselves may have gone through before. Question 1: How do you cope with being wrongfully accused and then pushed aside? Is it over? Is it not? Help anyone?
To anyone out there like me fearing you are alone in this because your partner can't support you right now my own personal advice is this: You are not alone even if it feels like it. Don't let others decide your relationship but you two. Remember no one will know your relationship better than you and him (or her) Remember your partner may change their minds over and over, they have a lot happening for them, my advice is stay in the back ground if they don't want you right now. Let them know you are there for them even as a friend. Be forgiving and patient, try keeping your connection by offering meals/things that are important to you both, to your relationship.
ALWAYS remember love is worth fighting for. No matter what the negative and ignorant people say. That's all I've learnt thus far. In my trial by fire discovery of my partner's condition. However I'm eager to learn more.
