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MDTSenior Contributor
So its over between my partner and I
Its really hurting me and I guess it's because I had hopes.
I feel so stupid
I wish it ended better but is there any way it can end well?
It all seems like it was for nothing
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PeregrinefalconSenior Contributor
I'm so sorry you're going through that @MDT, breakups are can be completely shattering.
I could say a whole lot about "you always learn from your relationships" and "this is a time to focus on you" but right now - it just sucks. It hurts. There are 1000 questions and "What ifs".
We are sitting here with you 💛
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PauletteSenior Contributor
Hi @MDT ,
Please know I am here for you too. It's so painful it feels lonely others don't understand at times. At times I just take myself to a different place, make sure I'm with those that love and support me. Please also keep up self care. It's hard when you're in turmoil but you do need to be kind to you. You are highly intelligent you have in nsight to know this relationship might have hurt you to much and not bought the love and care you need. If it's ok I say that. Hugs and love.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Little_LeopardSenior Contributor
@MDT
Things can end “amicably”.
Very rarely do they “end well”.
I think it’s easier to end a relationship badly because it makes it easier some how. Ending a relationship when things feel good would be even harder. So it’s easier to end a relationship that you know is not going to work when things are bad.
time to heal and practice self care. Time to repair your own relationship with your self. Time to grieve and give yourself the care and love and attention that you deserve.
Take each moment as it comes. Your feelings and grief and loss are real and valid no matter what happend.
You will see a light at the end of the tunnel, it’s a matter of time. And eventually you will be out of the tunnel.
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Sorry to her my dear @MDT . It sounds painful. Yet in a way, I also think you’ve grown from this. You’ve got so much ahead of you.
It’s okay that you feel hurt. If you really feel you need to talk to someone, Griefline might be helpful. They deal with relationship losses too.
I hope you can be kind to yourself.
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MDTSenior Contributor
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TABSenior Contributor
Deal with it Hams
@MDT she prob has no idea wat is going on in yr Head
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MDTSenior Contributor
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Little_LeopardSenior Contributor
@MDT Sound like a well thought out and logical plan!
I like that you have a bit of time to think over things before you meet up.
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TABSenior Contributor
What you're feeling is Normal @MDT .. just find a way to deal with it and give it time maybe..
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