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I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Cinderella83Contributor12 Aug 2022, 12:51 pm AEST

I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Ok so I guess I've pushed away all my friends from the past and haven't had any for many years. I put myself into a hard shell.

I think I can handle friends now though that I'm older. I'm 39F. But how do I get friends? Sorry if this sounds completely stupid but my social skills aren't great and I'm not sure what to do.

I only have my partner (39M) and it's not going great so I want to build some support around me in case things end. I also want him to see that I'm likeable. I know I am because people tend to like me at work and I'm good with my clients etc. I'm just very shy.

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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor20 Aug 2022, 2:11 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Hi @CFH ,

I don’t think we’ve met. Welcome to the forums.

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CFHContributor20 Aug 2022, 2:13 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Hi @Cinderella83. Do you mind me asking which friend finder app you use?

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CFHContributor20 Aug 2022, 2:16 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Hi and thank you 🙂

Yes, I am relatively new here.

I am attempting to make sense of my BDP.

I was diagnosed 2020 at age 40.

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Cinderella83Contributor20 Aug 2022, 2:58 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Sure I'm using the app Wink 🙂 I found a friend to chat with. She doesn't live in my state unfortunately but she's into similar things I'm into.

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Cinderella83Contributor20 Aug 2022, 2:59 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

Hello 🙂
Do you find this site helpful?

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Cinderella83Contributor20 Aug 2022, 3:00 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

It's hard getting a late diagnosis. I almost don't want to know! I will get used to the idea soon enough I guess.

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CFHContributor20 Aug 2022, 5:26 pm AEST

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I might give Wink a try 🙂

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CFHContributor20 Aug 2022, 5:31 pm AEST

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I'm glad i stumbled onto this site. Makes you feel less alone. People with the same experiences as you "get you" better than people who have no idea what we go through

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tymeModerator20 Aug 2022, 5:49 pm AEST

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I'm glad you are here too @CFH - I wish I had something like this when first realised I had MH challenges. I really need to reach out to people who understood. I'm glad I eventually found these forums. They've made a huge difference to my recovery.

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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor01 Oct 2022, 9:41 pm AEST

Re: I have BPD. How do I get friends?

@Cinderella83 , I haven’t heard from you in ages. How are you? I got you are okay.

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