How do I learn to trust myself?

@Faith-and-Hope I’m guessing you are really tired now. I’m starting to get tired now. It’s helped a bit to get it off my chest. I have sooooooo much in my head lately. It’s a very messy place to be :face_with_rolling_eyes:

I can understand that feeling @Teej ..... but it is important not to trap it within n yourself, as thought it’s your problem that you have to resolve ..... it’s a universal problem in that others have encountered the same, or something like it .... and you don’t have to go it alone ....

I guess acknowledging the feelings .... actually identifying them and recognising them as normal to your abnormal situation is a start.

Anyone thrown in the deep end in a sink or swim situation is only ever doing the best they know how .... but once they have either been pulled out of it, or extractated themselves, there is a reconciliation to be done. This is a gathering of information about where things are at, and what recovery looks like, Blame and shame have to be set aside (we know an author who teaches that) because they are part of the problem, not part of the solution.

Thank you so much for sharing this with me @Faith-and-Hope I think what you have written has calmed my farm a bit. I think I get caught up with I’m supposed to know all this. I’m supposed to be able to deal with it better. Other people would have dealt with it better. I guess no one really knows what will happen in great betrayals.

I’ll let you go to sleep. Thank you again. 💜🤗

PS I just realised that maybe there isn’t even a word for what happened. Betrayal doesn’t seem to do what happened to anyone justice. I guess it was more than that.

Looks like we were on the same wavelength there @Teej .... about getting things out of your head to stop them spinning in there ....

Don’t forget that your kids and mine are baby adults ..... and their views will be biased to their ages and stages Hon .... listen to them, but don’t presume they are correct about everything. You might find them coming back a decade down the track with some other tricky life experiences under their belt, saying to you, “oh, I am sooooo sorry I said that to you when I did ..... I really didn’t understand just what you were going through, and how hard that must have been”.

Just keep swimming @Teej .... that is what makes it all worth something .... persevering towards recovery, or stabilisation, if that is what recovery looks like for you ..... and stabilisation might be all we can achieve for my mr.

Thank you so much for the vote of confidence in my choices ..... as I said, there are others who have voiced increduality .... there will always be people who do that, no matter what you choose.

Hugs n hugs @Teej ..... I appreciate you so much ❣️

Hugs back @Faith-and-Hope. Night. I hope you sleep 😴 💜🤗

You too ... 💜💐💕