Struggling: TW suicide

@creative_writer, it sounds like you've tried so many self-care strategies and use other other ways to cope with the pain. I really admire your determination and open-mind when it comes to trying to figure all of this out.

Are you worried about SH tonight? I thought I'd also share this discussion on Self Harm Awareness Month- March 2022 which talks about harm reduction and alternatives ❤️

I know we have a few common experiences in our lives, but I know for me, the main things which helped me move through the pain of SA have been

• finding one safe and secure relationship to focus on and prove myself that that exists and to focus on (friend, family, therapist, barista - it didn't matter how small or irregular the interactions were. Just someone I felt comfortable around)
• Time and space. I know it sucks, but it really does take some time for this pain to heal. You're working so hard on your mental health and that might be frustrating. But how far have you come? Even reflecting on improvements you might think of as "small can help"
• I can be hard, but I've found thinking of a time in the future where I'm free from the pain helped to give me hope.

I know our journeys have some differences, but I know that for so many of us, the pain isn't truly healed, but it can get much lighter ❤️

I wonder though, how far have you come or what changes have you seen since this happend?

Hey @Former-Member.

I blame myself for my SA as it was my fault. I’m not sure how to change that

@creative_writer ❤️ wow, it sounds like there has been some really progress. But I want to acknowledge that of course during a big down period/depressive episode that it's hard to see out the other side or see the progress we've made.

I think it's so powerful when you said that you're not at your worst. I wonder if that gives you hope that things can keep improving?

And it could be one or both those things that is causing this. Do you feel like understanding that is useful? You could definitely talk to your GP or psych about your med

Also, how ya feeling? Would a call or webchat to the SANE drop-line be good for you to talk any of this out?

❤️ I wish it was more straight forward for you, but I hear that. Not sure if it's the same for you, but when I can see where I need to go, I feel frustrated or sad about the distance I need to travel. If that makes sense (my metaphors start to get strange at this time of night hehe). Not sure if you're feeling that too? But I know you'll get there in time ❤️

And what a difference a good psychiatrist can make! Or at least one we're comfortable with. I hope you find one soon ❤️ Glad SANE helped earlier today too.

What are you getting up to for the rest of the evening?

breaking the cycle is a massive thing @creative_writer !!

I'm heading to bed now, but I hope you have a good sleep!

I'd love to talk to you someday about your skincare routine because I've been finding it a wonderful way to pamper myself, but I'm still learning hehe