Help!

Hi @Hopeless. The paranoid behavior you describe is part and parcel of his illness. People who suffer Alzheimers/Dementia often believe someone is 'out to get them', or steal from them, or somehow trying to hurt them. I'm not suggesting for one moment your brother has Alzheimers/Dementia, but the thought process is similar due to his repeated drug abuse. It sounds as though he has a great psych who has dealt with this sort of illness and knows exactly how to cope. I'm sorry you have grown to dislike the way he is behaving, but this feeling should go as your brother starts responding positively to the treatment. It won't be all 'roses', there will be 'thorns' too, many of them. Recovering from MI that has been let to go too long means equally long, slow recovery. That is a good thing because when you recover real quick, it can mean the underlying cause has not been dealt with and the patient quickly reverts to original destructive behavior thereby sending everyone into a tailspin. Try to get mum interested in something that will help to occupy her time so that she spends less time fretting. If your brother sees her fretting and feeling guilty, he will act on this and the recovery process takes longer. It may be an idea to see if it would be possible for the hospital to advise your mum against contact for a while, so she has a chance to recuperate and become emotionally stronger. I realize how hard that is going to be, but if you could perhaps discuss with his psych, get some feedback about the effect this has had on your mum. Encourage mum to talk to a psych/counselor as opposed to your brother. It's equally important your mum is made to realize none of this is her fault, your fault, or your brother's actually. It's not really his fault. MI is no-one's fault, it's a sickness like any other and the sufferer needs guidance and love. doing what you are doing is showing love and support. Be kind to you too, take some time for you.

Well I think it's been 2 weeks since my brother has been home. At first he was still a little elevated, but now he is quite quiet, but also angry. He is mad at mum and dad but really I think he means the whole family. Although he has been told on a few occasions that he has schitzophrenia, he still has very little insight. He still thinks everything was blown out of proportion and he thinks he was hospitalised and medicated by what we have been saying.
I really want to tell him that it was his own actions andbehaviours that led him to where he is now. He did all of those things. It was the hospital that admitted him and ordered treatment.
I know I did the right thing in calling the police and I know he needs help.
My mum is feeling very guilty. She thinks he hates us all and we will lose him forever. She wishesnone of this happened and I think she would choose him and his psychotic behaviour over this. She reckons he will move out,become lonely and possible harm himself. She is seeing a psychologist but she is pretty broken. The thing is, my brother still blames her the most!
I feel guilty too. I want to hug him and tell him I'm sorry for "some" things and I wish he would understand where I was coming from, but I know it's not the right time. This will only confuse him or make him think he is right.
I'm worried he will hate me. Deep down I know we did the right thing but I'm so sad for him. What he went through, what he is going through, and what he is yet to go through. I hope one day he gets insight I really do!! Feeling sad!!

Hi @Hopeless

Welcome back. It sounds like a really rough time for all of your family - but it's clear that you really want what's best for your brother, even if he can't see it.

It can be a really hard process to get a loved one to see that you're 'all on the same team' so to speak. And it often takes time and unconditional love.

You don't have to be sorry for contacting the police - you were doing what was best for him and your family.

Since hospital has he been connected in with any services or treating team?

Hello. He has bed. Put on a community treatment order for 6mths. He will have monthly injections. He will see a case manager each fortnight.
He goes to court on Monday to face charges he was up against prior to admission. Legal aid has requested a section32 under mental health act and court was adjourned for six weeks. During the six wks he ended up an inpatient in mental health. We don't know what the outcome will be. Rehab maybe?? Other treatment perhaps.