I can’t cope

I think the work sounds like it is on challenging your inner voice. The more you 'listen' to the voice, the stronger it becomes @Captain24

I wonder if your psychology work can be around challenging thoughts?

I should write what I’ve just written out and hand it to her @tyme. Maybe we can start on that and take the focus off my ED. It seems that’s all she wants to talk about.

My CM and GP are focussed on where my mood is at or at the moment rapidly changing. Which is their job and I appreciate it. They do discuss my current thoughts at the time and talk me through them but no one seems to help me with a way to challenge them. My CM does a little but at the moment the focus is on me being in crisis mode and supporting me through that safely.

The fact that no one can help. That then makes me think, I’m not worth it or it’s true or that I’m just too hard.

It’s just compounding

Questions such as this may be helpful to challenge your thoughts @Captain24 :

1. Questions that act as a reality check:

• What is the evidence for and against my thinking?

• Am I jumping to negative conclusions?

• How can I find out if what I’m thinking is actually true?

2. Questions that seek alternative explanations:

• Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?

• What else could this mean?

• If I were being positive, how would I view the situation?

3. Questions that put things in perspective:

• What’s the best thing that could happen?

• Is there anything good about this situation?

• Will this matter in five years’ time?

4. Questions that are goal-directed:

• Is this way of thinking helping me to achieve my goals?

• What can I do that will help me solve the problem?

• Is there something I can learn from this situation, to help me do it better next time?

That is really helpful. @tyme Thank you!!

I am willing to try it. I know it won’t succeed every time but even if I can get one thought changed is a start even if it’s just a little thought.

Im currently overwhelmed with everything I have to do in the next 3 days. If I don’t do it all I will feel like a failure. I need to think at least I got most of it done. The rest will be waiting when I get home! That’s a start isn’t it?

Of course it's a start @Captain24 !

Good on you for even giving it a go. That takes a lot in itself.

I had so much to do yesterday. I felt my brain was going to explode. I need a day just to completely chill.

Anyway, I'm off now. I'll chat you another day.

Please take care.

tyme

Thank you… I appreciate your guidance. @tyme

I hope you have a good night and hopefully I’ll give you an example of a challenged thought tomorrow!

I’m feeling a little anxious, well a lot actually. I’m taking Pix to the vet today and she is usually stressed being there but it’s only been a week since she said goodbye to Angel there.

I’ve been out and done some stuff today. I’ve got things to clean both cars with and weed and feed for the lawn. Plus stuff to clean the shower screen. I think it’s going to be another busy day. I have so much to do.

I’m hoping that I can stop myself from being so overwhelmed. Once I’m at that stage I can’t manage to function. I need to get most things done between today and tomorrow so that Sunday can be just for me. Before I have to spend a whole week with my parents, arguing, putting me down and beating me up and being constantly demanding.

I hope I can do it. Right now I’m not sure I can. Which I know is the wrong attitude but that’s me. I am trying to turn around the thought that I’m useless and lazy to it doesn’t matter as long as I accomplish something. But at the same time I’m telling myself that I don’t deserve to change it around as it is right that I’m useless

Hi @Captain24

Sorry, to hear you are feeling overwhelmed. It sounds like you have a lot going on all at once and I have been there many times in my life to understand how anxiety-inducing this can be.

In times like this remember to be kind to yourself. It's ok to feel anxious. You're only human, not a superhero. It's okay to take a step back throughout the day, take a deep breath, and recharge. This might be helpful as you can come back a little bit refreshed to the present situation with more confidence in tackling what needs to be done.

Have you tried deep breathing exercises? I have experienced anxiety since I was a teenager and know what you are feeling and going through and deep breathing can sometimes help me. Try focusing on your breathing can help as this can help to focus, try noticing feelings around your body when you are stressed and where you feel it in your body the most. Try inhaling deeply for a count of four, holding for four, and exhaling for a count of four. This can help calm your nervous system.

Be realistic about what you can and cannot accomplish over the next couple of days, don't try to do everything at once. Sometimes it can be helpful to focus on one task at a time - it's important not to overwhelm yourself and do what you can.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, try focusing on the small tasks that need to be done as this can also build momentum, happy feelings, and confidence! As you check off each smallish task, you may find yourself more motivated and feeling better to take on these bigger tasks you need to complete.

You've got this!

Take care and stay strong.

Melbcoffeesnob

Hi @Melbcoffeesnob

Nice to meet you.

I have ticked off a few easy things on my list. Plus taken PRN for my anxiety.. I’m hoping it calms me down to focus.

The biggest thing is to wash my main car. It’s and SUV with a bull bar! Plus clean the inside, which really doesn’t matter to much. But I really need to clean out the boot as I put a heap of plants in it to take to the tip. So it’s a mess. My other car can go through the car wash so I’ll just do that. When I jump start it. I don’t use it so the battery is flat.

I like the suggestion of taking a step away. I always seem to keep going. I usually push my self too far and that’s not helpful. I need to give myself permission to chill.

I do need to remember to breathe. I usually need reminding to do so. So thank you!

Im sorry you have had anxiety since teenage years. It must have been difficult. I’ve had depression since then and in hindsight and social anxiety. But back then it wasn’t talked about and I didn’t know where to go for help. My mum always put so much pressure on me to be the perfect child. I think that’s kinda where it still comes from 30 yrs later.

I did have a little cry half an hr ago as everyone at the vet surgery asked how we were coping with the loss of mums dog. I didn’t like having to go there but Pix had to go.

I need to tell myself that I’ve done harder things and gotten through. I can do this. I also struggle with being kind to

myself. I feel like I don’t deserve it and I’m not worthy of it. I need to learn to change that

Thanks for the boost. I really needed it.

I hope your day is being kind to you.

Thank you

Afternoon @Captain24

Just coming past to check in on you.

Sounds like you have a few things planned for today. Hope you get what you need done.