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I can’t cope

Captain24Senior Contributor16 June 2022, 9:48 pm AEST

I can’t cope

Hi. I’m new and have never been in anything like this before.
I’m really struggling with depression at the moment and just need a place to vent.
there is no reason as to why I feel this way. I just hate myself and feel like I’m an unworthy and useless person. I don’t have a partner or many friends. I feel like I keep pushing them away when I’m down. I’m just not worthy of them. I hate life and just wish I would go to sleep and not wake up. I feel so much emotional pain inside but numb at the same time. None of this makes any sense but it just how I feel.

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor08 Aug 2026, 10:05 am AEST

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@Nala2022 I'm falling asleep so I think the cuppa can wait. My head is pounding so I'm hoping I can get a bit of sleep.

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Nala2022Moderator08 Aug 2026, 10:12 am AEST

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That's okay @MissGremlin. The cuppa can definitely wait. I hope you're able to get some well deserved rest and that your headache eases soon. Go gently with yourself 💛

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor08 Aug 2026, 11:26 am AEST

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@Nala2022 I dozed off briefly but I've just woken up in a complete panic and with my jaw being locked aswell (reminded me that's the other thing i wanted to talk to my doctor about). I'm really over waking up like this, it's so scary and takes ages for me to be able to calm down from it. I'm safe, cuddled up with Casper trying to just focus on his breathing.

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Nala2022Moderator08 Aug 2026, 11:32 am AEST

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I’m really sorry to hear that @MissGremlin ☹️ I can understand how overwhelming and scary it must feel to wake up like that, especially with the discomfort from your jaw as well

I’m glad you remembered, definitely bring that up with your doctor today. What time is your appointment?

I’m glad you’re safe and have Casper there with you. I hope you’re able to slowly settle again, even if it’s just a little bit at a time, that’s still something 💛

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor08 Aug 2026, 11:35 am AEST

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@Nala2022 it's so overwhelming 😞.

My appointment is at 1.40pm.

I'm trying so hard to settle, it just takes a long time for my body to get out of the panicked state. Everything is racing at the moment, I'm trying to slow things down (I'm safe).

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Nala2022Moderator08 Aug 2026, 11:41 am AEST

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I know how hard it can feel when everything becomes so overwhelming @MissGremlin

Try to just take one moment at a time and go at your own pace, there's no need to rush. Slow, steady breaths and focusing on Casper's presence might help your body settle little by little

You've gotten through a lot already, and you only need to focus on getting through this moment 💛

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor08 Aug 2026, 11:45 am AEST

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@Nala2022 Casper is laying across me to help calm me, i can feel his heartbeat against me.

Trying hard to just focus on this moment. Thankyou for being gentle and understanding ❤️

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Nala2022Moderator08 Aug 2026, 12:52 pm AEST

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That sounds like such a comforting thing to focus on

You’re doing really well just taking things one moment at a time @MissGremlin

Be gentle with yourself and stay with whatever feels calming right now 💛

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor08 Aug 2026, 12:57 pm AEST

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@Nala2022 he helps so much when I'm having panic attacks.

I've managed to get up and get dressed though my heart is far from happy. My doctors appointment today can't come soon enough (I'm safe).

I hope you enjoy the rest of your day sweet, keep being the amazing you that you are ❤️.

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Nala2022Moderator08 Aug 2026, 1:15 pm AEST

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I’m glad he helps so much @MissGremlin

Getting up and getting dressed is still a step forward, especially when things are feeling this hard. You should be proud of yourself for that

I really hope your appointment goes well today and that you’re able to get some answers and support around everything

Thank you so much for your kind words, they really mean a lot. I hope the rest of today feels a little gentler for you 💛

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