I can’t cope

@tyme I have heard that before…. sitting in the unpleasantness. I’m not in a place to do that, it always leads to not so good things.

How do you stop the pure and deep seated hatred??????? It’s an angry kind of hatred.

That's fair enough if you don't think you are i the space to sit in the unpleasantness. Hence I practiced it first with my psychologist. @Bow .

As for anger and hatred etc, I had to come to the realisation that the anger I had within me didn't make an ounce of difference to those that caused the hate. In the end, I learnt I had to reframe my thinking so that I wouldn't dwell on the hurt, anger and rage.

This does not mean I do not get angry though. It's more that I don't dwell and let the anger fester.

In the past, I had people make allegations against me. Although these allegations were no where true, people who knew about it said that the person was a liar etc. However, more me, I did not want to frame it that they were a 'liar'. Instead, I accepted it as 'they misunderstood'. Why? because it would mean I wouldn't have to look at that person as a liar and hate them. If I see them that they misunderstood, it helps me forgive them and not hold it against them. Therefore, that anger leaves me.

So sometimes, re-framing thoughts and ideas does help. Not because you condone the action/s, but because you want it off your own chest.

I’m home @tyme. I just couldn’t face them or fake it any longer. I’m sorry.

That's okay @Captain24 - you made the effort in going and you should acknowledge the strength in doing so.

Can you give Pix a hug for me? Pix understands.

@tyme What about when it’s towards yourself??? I feel it so deeply. It repulses me. I can’t stand myself. Can’t stand the way I look. I hate myself so much. The way that I feel in my own skin. I sit and want to hack at myself

Hey @Captain24 ,

I'm certainly not too busy for you. I'm here for a chat.

What's Pix saying to you?

Hey @tyme

Thank you. Pixie has been sitting in my lap giving me kisses! I think she is telling me she loves me!

Awwww, you've put a big smile on my face @Captain24 .

Dogs are humans. They feel. They hear. They see.... they just know.

Yes, Pix certainly loves you! You are sooooo lucky to have her! And the best part? They don't answer back!

She does just know @tyme. I’d be lost without her.

As for answering back though… she certainly lets me know when she’s not happy! She quite often curls her top lip and bears her teeth at me.. I just laugh at her though and do what I want. Lol

Thinking of that just made me smile