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I can’t cope

Captain24Senior Contributor16 June 2022, 9:48 pm AEST

I can’t cope

Hi. I’m new and have never been in anything like this before.
I’m really struggling with depression at the moment and just need a place to vent.
there is no reason as to why I feel this way. I just hate myself and feel like I’m an unworthy and useless person. I don’t have a partner or many friends. I feel like I keep pushing them away when I’m down. I’m just not worthy of them. I hate life and just wish I would go to sleep and not wake up. I feel so much emotional pain inside but numb at the same time. None of this makes any sense but it just how I feel.

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Ru-beeModerator06 July 2025, 3:30 pm AEST

Re: I can’t cope

Those are some really difficult feeling to be grappling with @Captain24

Just so know, we're not going anywhere.

What might help you feel a bit more connected right now?

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Captain24Senior Contributor06 July 2025, 3:49 pm AEST

Re: I can’t cope

Its really unnerving @Ru-bee. The feeling that everyone is going to leave. That nobody wants to know me. I feel rejected and unwanted. I’m scared to connect incase it’s true.

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Ru-beeModerator06 July 2025, 4:21 pm AEST

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That would make it really scary to connect @Captain24 I completely get that.

Is there anything that's happened that has brought up these feelings today?

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JynxModerator06 July 2025, 4:24 pm AEST

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Hey @Captain24 - totally understandable feeling. Trauma survivors often have this impending sense of doom - the ol' 'waiting for the other shoe to drop' vibe. It's so hard.
We all want you here though, I can promise you that. I know it's hard to believe that's true on the days when your brain is being extra mean (which really is just your brain trying to protect you from the pain of the dropped shoe), but I assure you that we are here for you no matter what.

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Captain24Senior Contributor06 July 2025, 4:26 pm AEST

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Nothing has happened. It’s just come over me . @Ru-bee. Are you going to ban me?

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Captain24Senior Contributor06 July 2025, 4:28 pm AEST

Re: I can’t cope

I’m scared @Jynx

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JynxModerator06 July 2025, 4:35 pm AEST

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@Captain24 No ban plans darlin. Never even been discussed.

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Ru-beeModerator06 July 2025, 4:42 pm AEST

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Not only was it not discussed, the thought of a ban never even entered my head @Captain24

I'm sorry this is coming up for you so strongly right now and it's okay to not quite know where to go from here

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Captain24Senior Contributor06 July 2025, 4:43 pm AEST

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Are you sure? It would be one way to get rid of me @Jynx. @Ru-bee

Im really freaking out. I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack.

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JynxModerator06 July 2025, 4:54 pm AEST

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@Captain24 I can really hear how much your brain is trying to convince you of this hun.

Take some slow, deep breaths. Remember your breath is your first weapon against dysregulation.

Firstly, we give multiple warnings before we ban someone. Secondly, we don't want to get rid of anyone, ever. Bans and account pauses are never decisions made lightly, and always with ongoing conversations with our members to ensure they're still safe and supported along the way.

Trust me when I say, you would KNOW if you were 'in the crosshairs' or 'on thin ice'. We would tell you. And we wouldn't say it like that lol it would be a very gentle, validating conversation. One you have never needed to have with us before!! So why would it start now?

Nothing about you, without you. You are not going to be blindsided by a ban, it's simply not how we operate.

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