@Captain24 aye I grew up in one, it sucks. Have you ever thought about living somewhere else? I do know we've spoken about how much you like your house so I totally understand if that's just not an option but... it can change your life!
Aww your psych sounds cute as!! That's like my psych too, she's always so warm and her vibe is so inviting. I try to cultivate a warm vibe too. I'd be curious about how my clients have perceived me hey!
Yeah precisely that! It's actually incredible the empowerment we can feel when we find out that a) there's a word for our experiences and b) that the existence of that word tells me that I am not alone in said experience.
The 'Gaydar' thing is kinda funny. Because like... what does 'gay' look like? From my own experiences, people often tend to use the phrase to describe how they might determine if a random stranger could be queer. It is largely guesswork, probably more about noticing little indicators that the person is part of the community and culture. But not everyone is, hence why it's not like anyone has a 'reliable gaydar'. In the example I gave, this was a friend who had known me for years, and he was just waiting for me to figure it out apparently 😅 But yeah I dunno, am I making sense?