I can’t cope

Good morning @Captain24

Wishing you a good day today 💕

So I e had a very upsetting phone conversation.

My brother sent my mum a msg yesterday say we were getting a new family member. Mum instantly thought his girlfriend was pregnant. She isn’t, they are getting a dog.

My mum said. That’s good as she shouldn’t have kids anyway as she has some sort of mental problem and has to take medication for the rest of her life. I asked her what. She said she doesn’t know with it’s depression, schizophrenia, bipolar or something. Just that is some mental problem. I said that it’s called a mental illness. Just got a humph in response.

She was so dismissive, rude and unaccepting. I don’t know how many times she said ‘mental problem’ Is that what she thinks of me? Am I just some mental case? Am I not worthy of being a normal functioning person? I feel ashamed of my MI. I am now wondering if that’s what everyone else thinks of me.

Sorry. It just hit really hard. It hurts a lot. I am ashamed of who I am.

Hey @Captain24, sorry to hear that you are feeling like this and going through this with your mother.

Our family members can say some unhelpful things about MH at times and can show a lack of understanding and be unsupportive. This can reflect the broader community, and it's not nice to experience it. I can understand that it does not sit well with you, particularly coming from your mum.

At times like this, it can be helpful for us to focus on what we can control vs what we can't control. We can't control what other people think, say, and behave but we can control how we react. Easier said than done and when we are feeling emotional it can be challenging to separate our thoughts. I encourage you to give it a go and maybe try to distance yourself from the comments.

What do you think about this @Captain24, do you think it might work for you in this situation?

Sitting with you today and acknowledging how hard this is to hear from a loved one.

Take care

RiverSeal

Thanks @RiverSeal

Ive done housework, bathed one dog and had a shower. All with music going.

It’s hard to unhear what was said. I know I chose how to react to it and I should be able to get over it, it’s different coming from your mum. I know that she doesn’t believe in my illness and never will. I know that’s what she thinks but to hear it… hurts.

She never has a nice thing to say about me so I should totally be use to it. I know I’m not good enough in her eyes and never will be. I shouldn’t have expected anything better to come out of her mouth.

I get it @Captain24 and it has happened to me too and it's not nice. Stay strong and connected with the community here where you are valued and respected! RiverSeal

Hey @Captain24 heaps sorry your mums words have had such a huge impact on you today. Leaving some squishy hugs for you 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

Thanks @Bow @RiverSeal.

I know that’s what she says and does. Thanks for the good thoughts

Hey @Bow @Captain24 @Snowie 🙂

My house is a LOUD chaotic mess...

Kids are playing 3 legged races. There's screaming everywhere. And just NOISE.

Is this what I have to look forward to all weekend???

@Captain24 , I hear your mum said some harmful things today... it just shows there's limited understanding....

I wouldn’t cope.. I don’t like noise. @tyme. I have enough trouble with barking dogs.

At least while they a screaming good screams they are having fun, being together, being creative and not on devices!

Positive spin for you. 2 days down. 14 to go!! 😜

Yea.. mums a bitch and I should know not to expect anything else. There is no understanding or want to understand.