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Gaslighting at workplace

Gaslighting at workplace

I've been a victim of severe gaslighting even 2 years after it happened but it was happening over a course of 5.5 years where I was abused in subtle ways that the parties could get away with it. I felt like I was under a hypnotic spell when I was around certain people my reactions would differ from person to person and I was saying sorry a lot when I did nothing wrong it's just they were dumping their own emotional baggage onto me. I am still feeling the aftermath of what I have gone through and both the Department, management and staff members who inflicted the abuse got away with it. I was constantly loved bombed and in that Department there was a lot of trauma bonding as well. The worst part is that I didn't know about it and by the time I realised it was already too little too late my former boss got away with sleeping with some of the younger girls and I was being pressured to commit those same acts but I refused.

The psychological manipulation and gaslighting damage has been done my perceptions and feelings were being twisted and turned and where I became a co-dependent of other people. I saw myself become polar opposite and now none of the activities I used to enjoy no longer feel the same at all. I tried going through all of the proper channels like HR, Australian Human Rights commission, Prime Minister, Top secretary, Governor General but to no avail they won't budge at all.

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Sorry to heat that @bazzy
Yeah @Clawde is right
Its hard. I have had experiences too.
How are you today ?

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@Appleblossom @tyme @Clawde @MDT thanks - It was like being in military school in that environment. Everything is too perfect and then in the corporate environment you are treated like dirt and you are literally shouted to the point where people in that environment lose any sense of themselves and the only way they can escape is by taking up smoking. People in that Department literally lost their minds and I have the scars to prove it too. My brother wants me to go down that route but he goes if you go into this kind of mentality where you expect people not to treat you like a militant then you will end up in a lot of disappointment because it's like this everywhere and you are put into sink or swim situation everywhere you work.

I feel my life was being determined by those people and I saw them play god in that Department and it was scary. I am looking at expanding my knowledge and my education but I don't know how far that will lead me because university once again seems to very structured which I think has some limitation and it doesn't offer any freedom and you basically become a programmed robot if you follow a structured approach and doesn't offer any pragmatic and it strips away your individuality.

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hey @bazzy
a former colleague of mine was reduced to tears because of the culture
another told me she got told to wear more make up
another told me he was bullied because of his race .

Rewarding bastardry in a workplace


Vis a vie uni i guess it does depend on what you want to study,

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Do you still work there @bazzy ?

tyme

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@tyme No, I do not work there anymore it's been a few years and i've been under suicide watch from my parents. I was put into a sink or swim situation. You can see the psychological trauma that people had to endure in that Department. I do similar work and there is a lot of micromanagement too @MDT but I am planning on getting out this slump.

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@MDT I had tears and psychotic episodes because of the work environment. I saw them depict certain on the way they dress or how much makeup they wore just so they could look more feminine. I was bullied because of my physical appearance and my accent both on the phones and in the corporate environment.

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its absurd how modern workplaces act like that @bazzy
I'm sorry to hear you had this experience though
What do you do now ?

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@MDT I do similar work but no longer work there anymore and you get picked on for taking too long in the toilet in the meetings and I am getting a similar treatment although it's not as bad for the moment in the current job environment but the work is quite stressful which is why I want to get out.

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With the right support and connection, you will get out of this slump @bazzy .

It is incredible to see your resilience in wanting to get out of the dip.

As much as I don't promise it will be easy, it is definitely doable.

We are with you on that,

tyme

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@tyme I was betrayed by a lot of people in that Department where I was promised the space agency which is my childhood dream and then to be thrown in the deep end and my innocence destroyed and them trying to destroy my dream and everyone else in the world get what they want except me.

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