My friend was abused - help

When you look at sexual abuse with males it is never going to be accepted by the individual or societally, because it takes everything from you, masculinity, identity, strength, innocence, trust, faith, hope, worth, it takes away everything we are expected to be, there will never be the same strength, confidence, or anything else that others have and to talk about it brings all the losses all that was taken boiling to the surface, you mentioned you should have said or done something now that's, one the whole hindsight thing, and two would it or could it of helped or would it of been brushed off like many other things. Also the same thing affects him he could or would never of said anything, but his not being able to protect himself to defend himself and that perceived weakness likely tears at his mind everyday

As humans we are apex predators, and as such that has been taken away all that inbuilt identity............humanity, making it harder to acquire such attributes that will draw a mate, the individual has become prey rather than predator and as such faces the world feeling that's all they are, people are a danger, talking about it means exposing a wound a weakness to another predator, and in those situations we know what happens in predatory species. It's nice that you are going to provide what you can, so many have no people like that and sit relying on the only person they can 'themselves' because no one else cares, And are treated as if we are weak or nothing.