Feeling lonely, even with exciting things happening around me, I’m just numb

Hi @Kessa , thank you for sharing

It really can be hard to feel different, like being single when others around u are in relationships ...

I'm sorry for all the loss and heartbreak u ou are going through

I can relate to being a proud woman, and trying my best and maybe for me not wanting to be fully vulnerable. My shame is enormous.

You are not alone, and it's ok to sometimes not feel so strong. I guess we are all dualities....a mix of feelings and expressions

We can be strong women or people, and still want help.

Good Evening @Kessa ,

I'm sorry to hear how difficult things have been recently. Despite not being able to give you a magic wand to 'make it all better', I can say you have found a great place to connect with others who perhaps feel the same way.

Your post reminded me of the years I spent isolated, lonely and depressed. I came to the point where I had no desire to be around anyone and preferred to be home alone - because it was safer. But this didn't stop the loneliness. I was so empty and void within me.

Therapy taught me the skills to re-engage with the world....I started with baby steps, and am still that way. However, despite living alone, I don't feel lonely one bit! Like you, work keeps me going, and when I don't have found I actually now WANT to reach out and connect with others.

These forums were a god-send to me. I started reconnecting with people on the forums because this was safer than real life. From there, I began mingling with people in the real world.

From what you have posted, it sounds more like you are going through a cycle of grief. Loss brings grief. It is a natural cycle that all people go through. If you do a search on the stages of grief you may be able to see where you are currently sitting.

All the best,

tyme

Hugs @EternalFlower - beautifully put post 🙂

Hi @Kessa and welcome to the forum where I hope you will receive support from others in similar situations.

I am sorry for your loss. Grief can take us down a long, lonely path. We are never the same and nor would we want to be but that doesn’t necessarily mean we are doomed to a life of misery either.

I lost my husband, father and aunt in quick succession and I know what it’s like to have great things happen yet still feel flat and alone.

when my h died all my friends were couples but now after a few years more of my friends are alone so I’m slowly having a social life again.

Please take care and listen to the people who believe in you for they are right 💙

Thank you

Your words resonate with me and yes it is shame that I feel too! And thank you for letting me know other people like myself have similar experiences, makes me feel a little less alone x

@Kessa ,

Yes, you are not alone

tyme, @Eve7

Hi there,

thanks for replying, I truely hope you are right about finding people to connect with, it’s like I’ve forgotten how to connect. And just from these couple of replies I have received already, you have similar stories to my own!

And I like the idea of trying to reconnect in this forum because yes I do feel safer.

I didn’t consider that I could still be grieving? Within a couple of months of my partner leaving me I lost my father and 6 months after that my Aunt! At the time they passed I felt nothing just cut off from the world, again I have told no one because I thought they would think me cold and uncaring.

Thank you again

Thank you

Yes, I’m already seeing that many of our life situations are so similar.

sorry for your losses too. And Thank you for also mentioning that I’m grieving! I hadn’t even considered that it could be happening to me. Your acknowledgement of great things happening but still feeling flat & alone helps me feel a little less crazy. Especially if it is tied to grief.

Maybe I will look into grief counselling x

Hello @Kessa

Grief counselling sounds like a good idea. Its not that long by the sound of it.

I found that I did not feel I ought to enjoy myself as a lack of loyalty to my loved ones who had passed. It has been a while now and I do give my permission, and joy and a good range of feelings have come back into my life.

Gently Bently

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