MDTSenior Contributor
Fear and regret
I have it bubbling away...
Its not nice and I feel physically sick from it.
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
Re: Fear and regret
No, It's not nice @MDT
Are you being kind to yourself? Are you allowing yourself permission to make mistakes? What are the expectations you have set for yourself? I would love to hear that last one, What expectations have you set for feb, and for the year?
Do you have any goals along with your recent life changes? Have you spent time breaking them down into tasks and putting down celebrations for when you reach them?
I know it's always darkest before the dawn mate. but i am in here in the darkness with you, waiting for the sunrise.
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MDTSenior Contributor
Re: Fear and regret
Hey @AussieRecharger
It helps to hear that
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Expectations I have set for myself?
I want badly to do something I see as meaningful. I have an expectation that this will be my goal and that I work towards it.
I left my old job because it was boring and made me depressed. My older expectations of myself were no longer sufficient. It was no longer about earning money and my keep. I needed more.
My fear is that I will never find that thing that drives me.
My regret is that I did not try earlier in my life when I was younger.
I saw photos of myself when I was younger and it all made sense. I take the Mickey out of myself in those photos. I was an awkward kid, trying to understand so much, trying to figure myself out and I regret not pushing myself more. I was weak physically and had no fashion sense. I looked awkward and couldn't smile properly.
I guess making fun of myself at that age is a safety behaviour now.
I feel I have given myself too much permission to make mistakes. I feel I need to hurry up. I feel I will waste away. I'm 28 and I've always been single. I feel inadequate because of it.
I mean I need to be honest and I will be. So that's my plan. But I feel even then, it is a hopeless endeavour anyway because I'm in the minority. People say I shouldnt have trouble with girls but I have and I have trouble with myself.
It helps to hear that
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Expectations I have set for myself?
I want badly to do something I see as meaningful. I have an expectation that this will be my goal and that I work towards it.
I left my old job because it was boring and made me depressed. My older expectations of myself were no longer sufficient. It was no longer about earning money and my keep. I needed more.
My fear is that I will never find that thing that drives me.
My regret is that I did not try earlier in my life when I was younger.
I saw photos of myself when I was younger and it all made sense. I take the Mickey out of myself in those photos. I was an awkward kid, trying to understand so much, trying to figure myself out and I regret not pushing myself more. I was weak physically and had no fashion sense. I looked awkward and couldn't smile properly.
I guess making fun of myself at that age is a safety behaviour now.
I feel I have given myself too much permission to make mistakes. I feel I need to hurry up. I feel I will waste away. I'm 28 and I've always been single. I feel inadequate because of it.
I mean I need to be honest and I will be. So that's my plan. But I feel even then, it is a hopeless endeavour anyway because I'm in the minority. People say I shouldnt have trouble with girls but I have and I have trouble with myself.
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
Re: Fear and regret
@MDT
Mate, you only know what you know and there is a reason why we have eyes in the front of our head, it is because looking backwards leads us to fall over ourselves. I watch a youtube channel called Charisma on command and even though i am awkward, it gives me tips on how to work on that stuff. 28 is old enough to have knowledge but not old enough to have the wisdom to use that knowledge effectively. You say you have the knowledge that you should have tried harder when you were younger but I am not hearing the wisdom of how to use that knowledge to empower your life now. Everyone wishes they could be Warren Buffet and invested when they are 11. I am in my 40's and starting now. I don't want to be a warren buffet, i simply just want to be happy with who I am and what I am. When I make an investing mistake, i laugh at it because it is part of learning. When you are hitting on a chick you like and it does not go wrong, have an emotion ready to call on that allows you to move on.
What accent does it for you? Irish accents are the bomb for me.
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MDTSenior Contributor
Re: Fear and regret
I saw an interview with this guy actually @AussieRecharger
It was pretty good.
I like his point about flirting with anyone and everyone. I started doing that last year. It's good advice. I use it.
It was pretty good.
I like his point about flirting with anyone and everyone. I started doing that last year. It's good advice. I use it.
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AussieRechargerSenior Contributor
Re: Fear and regret
How are you doing today @MDT ?
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