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Isolation

Jen54Casual Contributor29 Jan 2022, 1:13 pm AEDT

Isolation

Hi,

My 16 year old daughter has recently spent some time in hospital due to her undiagnosed BPD/ EUPD.

Since coming home it feels like she has had a reset button, as she is appearing more stable at the moment.

Anyways, apart from trying to help her in any way possible, with a new decent Psychologist etc, the hardest thing she and myself have had to deal with is friends turning their backs on us. One of my daughters friend group had told her that her mental illness makes them uncomfortable, (and she should write a pros and cons list) and this was part of the reason for her hospital admission. I too have had my so called best friend disengage, just sending me a text saying she's worried about me, but not enough to bother picking up the phone. My mother who lives overseas and has done for 30 years, advice was to sell stuff to pay for my daughters ongoing sessions with psychologist, and attempted to diagnose her from afar.

I get that it is confronting for others who have no idea what mental illness is about.

But more and more I am feeling very much alone, my only respite is going to work where I am so busy I forget about it all for a while. Meanwhile my daughter sits alone in her bedroom, being consumed by her anxiety and mood swings (she has been prescribed meds).

I am a sole parent with no family support, so I am strong and independent, but presently it feels a bit overwhelming doing it all on my own. Thanks for reading. 🙂

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In response to: Isolation

MattsOpinionSenior Contributor22 Feb 2022, 11:34 pm AEDT

Re: Isolation

Firstly I'd be asking a lot of questions about the situation in an effort to try and figure out the best course of action. Do you believe she's BPD or is it just a lazy diagnosis from the hospital? I don't want to cause any problems by questioning the diagnosis but the reality is teenagers can have all sorts of emotional problems and maybe it's better to deal with it than to take medicine. Maybe she's spending too much time on the internet and social media and thats the cause of some of the problems. Maybe she's had problems at school your not aware of. Are you able to talk to her? Do you believe the diagnosis is correct?.... i wondered if you mentioned the solution yourself. "my only respite is going to work where i am so busy i forget about it all for a while". Maybe getting a job would be the healthiest thing she could do. If thats possible. Because i don't understand the situation, but i would assume that long term, you probably want a kid who has a job and is doing something rather than a kid who wastes their time on the internet after being prescribed pills. I hope its ok to say that, just providing an alternative viewpoint and ideas.

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