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Pets as therapy and for our wellbeing

Pets as therapy and for our wellbeing

Does anybody else have a pet whom they rely on for companionship, comfort and everyday unconditional love and acceptance?

Very briefly, I suffer from PTSD and have done for 20 years. I have only recently sought help for it though, after trying to 'hide the symptoms for 18 years'. For the past year I have been undergoing Exposure Therapy and also EMDR therapy. Currently on ADs and taking medication to help with ptsd-related sleep disturbances and nightmares.

When I was in a very low place recently I wrote this poem about my little dog Holly.

My Little Dog Holly

I'd been wanting a little dog, but my hubby said no ... way too much trouble.

Then I spotted you one day, in a car alongside mine.

You looked sad and dejected .... the way I felt.

You were just eight months old at the time.

A skinny underfed little girl you were.

As I peered into the window, your eyes looked intently into mine.

Emotional tears caused my vision to blur,

as I considered the unlikely possibility that our lives may entwine.

When your owner returned to the car ... we talked,

and I discovered that something was wrong.

It seems you weren't wanted,

that you didn't get along.

I wanted to give you a more loving home to stay.

So I asked your owner if she'd let you go, hoping this wasn't folly.

Yes she said ... please take Tootsie away!

So home we went, you and I, where I renamed you Holly.

I worried what hubby would say, when I arrived home with you.

So I drove home feeling anxious, hoping he'd allow you to stay.

But you soon won him over with your enthusiasm and charm.

When I asked if I could keep you, he grudgingly said that I may.

So now I had my little dog, whom I could call my own.

You quickly made a permanent home, of our humble abode.

Such a sweet natured and obedient little girl you are.

Though shy and sensitive, your unique personality has always showed.

When I'm home alone and feeling vulnerable,

I know I can rely on you to alert me, when someone is around.

Your bark conveys a lot, and I'm able to tell ... whether it's friend or foe.

So there's no need for me to panic, at every little sound.

When I awaken in the dark of night,

breathless and shaking in fright.

You crawl closer and snuggle up tight,

helping to 'ground' me, until I can again see the light.

When I'm sad or afraid, and unable to prevent tears from falling,

you're always right beside me, pressing your little body close.

As if to remind me, that you're right there and could use a cuddle.

That I'm not entirely alone, and shouldn't feel morose.

When I arrive home after being out,

you're always there to greet me, giving your all.

I cannot help but smile,

as your love and devotion is so unconditional.

When you look so knowingly into my eyes,

what is it there that you seek?

There are times you appear so wise,

what would you tell me, if you could speak?

I may not be here now, if not for you.

You give me a reason each day ... to live.

Your joy of life helps me to view,

life's simple pleasures from your perspective.

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Very good point @Former-Member. I totally agree.

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Yes I know what you mean @Shaz51. Holly has a totally different back when she knows who is at the door, compared to when it is a stranger. She has a different back when hubby gets home, and a different bark when she has a lizard she has bailed up. And another one when she is trying to remind me that its dinner time. Arent pets funny.

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Yes @Former-Member cats do love their lizards. I'm glad you were able to let him go again. Cats do seem to like to bring you a gift dont they? Lizards arent so bad, but I dont appreciate gift mice!

Holly loves frogs actually. She is totally obsessed with them. The little green tree frogs. They can be the size of your little fingernail, and she spots them in the garden at nighttime when they come out.

Trouble is she grabs them and brings them inside, unknown to me at the time. She must be very careful and gentle with them though, because they never appear to be harmed.

She just brings them into the house and lets them go in the hallway. Then just watches them jump around. I am unable to count the number of times I have had to try to catch them and release them back outside.

Much to Holly's annoyance.

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Hello @Former-Member

Trouble is she grabs them and brings them inside, unknown to me at the time. She must be very careful and gentle with them though, because they never appear to be harmed.-- Holly is bringing you a present ,

I Inherited my grandmas cat , and he used to bring presents in everyday

@Former-Member, just be careful that Holly does not bite toads, she could gt sick xx

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My kelpie is sooo cute!!!

Just before I lay down on the floor and she plonked herself down right next to me and put her two front pows over my arms (as if she is holding my arms down).

And licks, licks and licks. When i talk to her she stops licking and just stares. like she understnds everything i am saying.

if i say 'Jersey let's go outside and hang the clothes out' - she runs to the back door

if is say 'jersey do you want to go for a walk' - she runs to the front door and starts jumping like a kangroo!!!

if i say 'jersey let's go and pick up (whoever) one of the kids' - she stops, her ears stick up and she runs to the door. if you take your time to come downstairs, she runs back up looks and me and runs back down to the front door.

she loves to play hide and seek.

she is MY BEST FRIEND xx00

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Hello @BlueBay

That is sooo wonderful ,Jersey ;loves you xx

Pets are so lovely , with my dog Tara , I would hide pieces of cheese for her to find -- she finds them everytime

One day tara came in barking and going on wanted mw to follow her and outside we saw my other dog , a foxy digging a hole, under the fence and tara came in to tell on him xx

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Okay guys @Shaz51 @Former-Member & others. I have to get this off my chest because it's affecting me too much.
I had 2 dogs initially. Last year I rehomed a dog that was in the kennels for 3 months. He's a nice boy. Likes his cuddles but he's just so dominant - that my older dog hates him. Have been too many fights. Now trying to find him a new home. But that's not my main reason for posting today.
Since I got really sick - over 2 years ago - I've been neglecting my dogs. I still brush them and bath them. But I'm not walking them very often. I give them pats. But they want / need more cuddles and more time.
I know pets are meant to help when feeling down, but when I'm down I tend to ignore them. I love them, but I'm not here for them. And I feel so guilty about it. They deserve more than I've been able to give.
As I've slowly gotten better - I've put my energy into myself and my son. I still don't feel like I have the energy for them.
I don't want them to leave here. My two old dogs. I just feel sh** that I'm not loving them as well as others can.
I wish I could be like some of you here

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@utopia - me too!

I was lucky that I was living in semi-detached apartments and my neighbours were really caring for my little kitten. I now live with my parents and they take care of her when I'm ill.

But I totally get it, I neglect her when I'm ill, but I try to make up for it when I'm well. I like to think she understands that I'm unwell and can't do as much as I'd like.

Would your neighbours take them out for a walk when you're unwell?

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Hi @utopia

I'm sorry to read that when you're down it's hard to look after your dogs. I understand that becasue when you're down the last thing you want to do is play/look after pets.

I agree with @Former-Member is there someone close by, like a teenager that would love to walk your dog? Even if you could give the student a little pocket money for doing it, it would benefit the dog and you because then you know he has had his walk and you can rest when not well.

I know there are certain people around that do that - walk other people's dogs. But i would ask a teenager, do you have any friends that have teenage kids looking for a bit of pocket money?

But i do understand what you are saying. Hugs to you @utopia xxxoo

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Thanks @Former-Member. It is good to know I'm not alone. I just wish I was one of those people who could sit with their pet on their lap and cuddle them and get comfort from them.
I'm hoping as I get stronger and better that I will be able to show them more love.
They do know when I'm down. That's when they like to hang around me more. But that's when I'm more likely to pull away.
Bugger - just got an AHA Moment. I think I used to do the same with my ex's. WOW! Will bring this up with my therapist this week.
Thank you so very much @Former-Member. Sometimes when I post - the answer comes to me. Thanks for helping me get to this moment.
Wow. Feeling emotional. Teary and happy.
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