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Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Hi SANE Community,

This fortnight, we invite you to join our Topic Tuesday on supporting loved ones living with BPD with peer support worker @tyme !

There are many in our community actively seeking support around caring for loved ones living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), often feeling isolated and lost in this process. BPD is a complex mental health issue that can be very distressing for the person and for the friends, family and carers close to them- leading to strained relationships and burn out.

It's important that we can find others with shared experiences so that we don’t feel so alone as we care for our loved ones. This Topic Tuesday will be a space to come together and ask any questions we may have, as well as discuss our experiences and strategies for self care.

Join us so that we can build connections and feel more empowered in our roles.

Please join the discussion here on Tuesday the 25th of January 2022 from 7:00pm-8:30pm AEST to follow this conversation.

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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Maybe1 ,

The practising and perfecting of these skills is constant.

Even now, I can't say I have 'recovered', but instead, 'recovering' because I see BPD recovery as ongoing. I'm learning more about myself and others each day and this is what makes BPD recovery so awesome!

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Maybe1Casual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Oh gee! It's a long road!! Cudos to you and your supports! It has only been after her recent 'meltdown' that she seems more aware of her actions and what steps she needs to take to manage & improve her behaviours.

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Determined , I'm so sorry to hear of that experience and the lasting impact that would have on you and your children. Loved ones attempting suicide is definitely not an easy thing to sit with or process. Were you able to get support for yourself and the children around this?

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Maybe1Casual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Thanks. Getting there...

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tymeModerator

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@Determined ,

Have you ever sat down to set these boundaries in consultation WITH your loved one?

When I had boundaries set FOR me, I kicked because I felt people were trying to control me.

When I had boundaries set WITH me, it empowered me. It made me WANT to make changes.

tyme

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cloudcoreSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

That doesn't sound good @TAB ! I'll tag you in another space just to make sure you're okay 😮

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FarmboyCasual Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

On a good day my wife is the most sensitive, caring, gentle and empathetic person you will find, truly an angel. To watch her interact with people and animals on those days brings absolute joy to my heart. I need to leave the forum now as I have a 4hour drive home to be with my wife. Thank you for insights and kind posts.

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

@tyme wrote:

@Determined ,

When I had boundaries set FOR me, I kicked because I felt people were trying to control me.

When I had boundaries set WITH me, it empowered me. It made me WANT to make changes.

🙌

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DeterminedSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Zero support @cloudcore except frommchurch family.

Drs downplayed it as attention seeking.

That hurt the most that I was not acknowledged or validated I'm my concerns. Darling didn't want to stay in hospital after Ed cleared her so she didn't have to. So she was sent home with me not knowing what she was going to do next and terrified to sleep.

Probably leave it at that as I can feel myself.getting worked up. Thought I could talk about it but seems not 😥

And kind if off topic. So Probably not helpful.

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DaisydreamerSenior Contributor

Re: Topic Tuesday // Supporting loved ones living with BPD // Tuesday 25th January, 7pm-8:30pm AEDT

Thank you for joining us here tonight @Farmboy and we hope to see you around the forums again soon 🙂
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