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I can't handle this.

bigtContributor25 Sept 2016, 11:56 am AEST

I can't handle this.

I am sore as hell from been knocked off my bike two weeks ago and I was in hospital for a bit. My bike a right off. I'm on pain kills but they aren't working well. Then yesterday we had to take our fur baby, British bulldog to the vet as she was really sick, turns out she at 3 half had kidney failure and died in my arms. she was so beautiful and helped me time and time again when I was in a dark place. She knew whe I was and would curl up beside me and just lay there. Every now and then would touch me with her paw to say it's all good dad I got your back. But now she is gone. I don't know.what to do. I'm a bloody mess. I'm worried my brain is going to say that's it I can't do this anymore and just shut down.

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bigtContributor26 Sept 2016, 5:41 am AEST

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Thank you

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bigtContributor26 Sept 2016, 6:17 am AEST

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Triumph speedmaster in mint condition it took me a year to find the one I wanted but only had it 6 months. The a snooty nose rich kid in his flash bmw took me out.

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KurraSenior Contributor26 Sept 2016, 11:01 am AEST

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Hi @bigt

What tough stuff you've been dealing with.
I really feel for you losing your beloved fur baby. My dog is 17 and I know that day will come.

This sounds incredibly stupid but I've had a chat with her about what I should do when she's gone. She listened intensely as they do.
She told me she doesn't want me to be without a fur baby. So we talked about what dog I should get in the future. She simply told me to get another like her in personality and who will be as loyal and as gentle with me.

Of course it is stupid because she can't talk to me but it has given me an idea oh how to deal with her loss when the day comes and I know what to look for. What I need. It certainly won't be the same breed. She's a mix of heavens knows what.

Try to remember her in a good way and thank her for all she gave to you during her short life.
Thinking of you 🎶💕

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bigtContributor26 Sept 2016, 12:33 pm AEST

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She was my baby she was more than just a dog she new when I was down and she would cuddle up to me. She loved motorcycles she would hang out when I cleaned mine. She would also go and visit the guys down the road who had bike's every time there garage door was open she was in there .Lol. everyone in the neighbour hood knew her. She had so much love to give everyone. So talk to your dog cuddle it kiss it. It's not strange to talk to your fur baby do it every day.

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KurraSenior Contributor26 Sept 2016, 1:16 pm AEST

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@bigt
She certainly gave you her heart and soul. Treasure those memories. The wonderful thing is that you can hold those memories forever. You were certainly very blessed the day she came in to your life.
Hugzzz

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor27 Sept 2016, 12:49 am AEST

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I was taught to ride by a pom when I was 18, who was old school and figured that triumphs were often on the side of the road ... not getting into an argument about bikes ya hear ... I understand the value in "mint condition" too.

Its kinda funny .. my mother never forgave me for riding motorbikes ... which I only did for 3 years .. but I loved it ... mum was pretty snobby and into high culture and I tried to please her ...

but the point to my rave is how circular things can be ... a few years I had a technician totally devoted to pianos work on my old Mason & Hamlyn ...it was all very proper & polite ... but when we found out that each other rode motor cycles ... out came the phone with pics of his dog on the tank...

I am just raving, sorry .. I know you are in a tough situation ... hope you get better and on top of things again.

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