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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member Life is a continual learning process and often it is through mistakes we learn the most. Sometimes though it is not about right or wrong or correct or an error ... we usually make the choices that seem right at the time.
Sometimes in family groups people get locked into roles .. they get fixed into being a helper or the joker or the tough guy or the martyr ... or other roles. You may be "carrying" the pain for the whole group. Cutting may not change that ... just damage you ...you dont really need punishment ... the only way forward I know is to grow and broaden yourself as a person .. maybe put a bit of distance between you and the family and give yourself the right to have some good life experiences .. I am not sure where your interests are.
If our trust is damaged it takes a while to grow it ... I dont really have a big sense of trust ... probably the main person I trust is myself .. but I have had to reach out in therapy just to be ME .. in the presence of another human being ..
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SylvesterSenior Contributor
I am so sorry @Former-Member that you feel this way, feeling worthless must be awful for you so please stay on the forum and communicate with your lovely wise supports here @Former-Member @Appleblossom @Kurra
If you want any details or numbers please let us know.
Sylvester
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Former-Member It is terrible that you are not allowed to call the services.
Do your best with the GP. Gradually I hope you can post a bit more and read others posts and gain a better perspective on life. When we are young our family's views are so dominant.
Work on taking care of you.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Try and make sure you are in a safe place to get through the night. Breath and gently rock yourself and I hope you can settle. Notice your breath .. is it deep .. is it fast .. sometimes curling up in foetal position is consoling ... it is ok to cry ... but I hope you find a therapist who can help soon.
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