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outlanderSenior Contributor
Right now it feels like im on the verge of a mental breakdown. the only space that feels safe is here. the only place i can talk and support others because that is what helps me. but right now i cant think straight.
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BunniekinsSenior Contributor
@outlander have you got anyone in rl who can help you out of the pickle you are in? i have a mental health nurse who I see once a week. I would be lost without her.
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DimitySenior Contributor
It's tough @outlander . Dad was assessed by someone from the regional health service's aged care and rehabilitation centre and they came to our place and took into consideration my disability. The local council also provides some services like library access etc. After he was in aged care one of my sisters started taking him out for shopping and a meal every week. We'd put him on a waitlist for a local nursing home a couple of years beforehand. I think the family were disowning me more than him. You've got to get help from wherever you can or you'll both go under. Find the regional aged care providers, ring Council, talk to your gp. Dad was fiercely independent too but got exhausted trying to cope on his own while I was at work. Best wishes to you both.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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cloudcoreSenior Contributor
Hi @outlander ,
I'm sorry to hear how much you are struggling at the moment. It sounds so overwhelming to handle all of these competing demands on your own. Your frustrations and worries are completely understandable. 
You mentioned that other's won't care for your pops, but also pressure you in taking on full responsibility for him without aid. It sounds quite unfair on you 
I'm wondering if you would be able to elaborate on this to help me understand these relationships and this situation a little better?
from cloudcore
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NatureLoverSenior Contributor
@outlander wrote:
Thanks @NatureLover i just cant seem to even though it might be thw right option. Im already so disowned by family its awkward.
I'm sorry to hear, @outlander ...I do understand as I used to feel the same about my family.
Sending hugs and 💙
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
I'm sorry to hear how tough things are @outlander . I wonder if anyone here on the forums can support you with networking with others in a similar situation as a carer. There must be some form of respite support out there for people like you.
@Shaz51 , would you know of any respite services?
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