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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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Sending good wishes your way, too, @tonys. Hoping all is well with you. Just taking things day by day here. Enough to keep me busy but nothing to write home about. Take care.

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Dearest @Former-Member

Thank you for the message.

Your message opened something up in me. I don't know. I know I'll get through this time. I think it's because iv got words to put to it which help me identify it. Though I wish I had your language......

But ...the words are that I'm not present in my sons lives.

I went on numerous astrology websites not to learn but to get a birth sign statement I felt spoke to me and I found the write up of birth sign on astroseek.com was very me.

The astrology wrote that I get my own support system and I realised this is correct -

Since from early childhood I had support. I was working in art/craft stores at age 13 which gave me a huge look into the art world but was up to me whether I took advantage of it.

 this is one of my pieces of artwork. It's quite big and I drew the ship - the basic design. - and put photo transfers on it.

I also studied Psychotherapy for a while I think the poem went

" I look up,

The whole world opens up wide,

I turn my head down

To the horizon

And sunshine

Time is upon us

Ships swim on the water

Night crosses the sky

You know the motion of the moon and the stars

My beloved

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@pettypatti that poem & artwork is just stunning. Thanks for sharing.

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@Former-Member wrote:

@Jynx I posted about sleep apnoea which may be helpful for others, but I can’t remember which thread it was in. It was for @TAB , in one of their threads.
I used to work in the area of sleep disorder diagnostics and treatment so it may be helpful in understanding the mechanisms and treatment options…. Maybe it’s helpful



Was it in Tabaluga's, @Former-Member? Our search function is... less than ideal when it comes to finding specific posts. You could go to your profile and look back through your history to see when you posted in that thread - if you remember the date it might be a little easier too. Also, ignore the time stamp on the post history on your profile, it doesn't list when you posted it lists the time for the most recent post on that thread... I know, it doesn't make sense 😅 But it is in chronological order so you might have to scroll back a few pages, just depends how much patience you have to go looking!

Otherwise, feel free to make a whole new thread! I reckon a thread about sleep, sleep hygeine, and tips and stuff, would be really useful to a lot of people!

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I’ll see if I can find it @Jynx ….

I have left a few posts detailing relevant info - quite a comprehensive bunch of info…in the as of now unknown thread (edit: see below)

And also one comes to mind in a chat on another thread with @Former-Member regarding CPAP/MAS devices … that would also fall under that category.

I’d be happy to collate the info into a dedicated sleep thread: I worked in the industry for some long years, and specialised in second tier (complex cases/complex ventilation/alternate evidenced therapies), as well as my back ground in occupational therapy (my undergrad), where sleep hygiene was critical amongst the discussions I had with my clients/specialists’ patients.
feel free to let me know, otherwise I’ll try to find particular threads and link them (however I think pasting them into a dedicated sleep equipment/sleep hygiene thread may be more precise to access…maybe including the interaction of various medications and sleep breathing would also be great to include in that area? Many different meds - by their mechanism of action - impact on a variety of key sleep breathing attributes: brain, mechanical function, lung diffusion, etc.. I used to teach anatomy so I have some basic understanding of these interactions, and can source evidence based data to share if people are interested).
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mandibular advancement splint/mandibular advancement device (MAS/MAD)/CPAP/ventilation:

MAS MAD p8237 09/3/24 my posts discussing apnoea.
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masks and CPAP: CPAP and masks p8225 07/3/24 my posts discussing masks and CPAP.

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Creative wild intellect of @Former-Member

I just got caught up in your sleep knowledge 💤,,,,,, who would have known hey ??

Here I am struggling with a clinical book writing notes yes iv covered 15 pages in 2 months and @Former-Member

Just types out knowledged.....information. I have a few years to get there. I'm definately not jealous but very impressed.

Because it's being used in such a compassionate way.

 

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@Former-Member oh wow, what valuable knowledge to have! Yeah I wish it was easier to rustle up old posts, but alas combing through your post history is probably the best approach, and can be tedious. I know well the other kind of tedium too - rewriting stuff you've already written and trying to remember it all! Lost too many uni essays to computer crashes and insufficient frequency of saving the document 🤣

So up to you if you want to create a new thread!! I think it's a great idea, the only caveat being that discussion of sleep medications probably wouldn't work, since it's against guidelines. Unless you think it's still useful to talk about them more generally (like we can talk about SSRI's, or antipsychotics, but just not name them specifically or talk about dosages, nor make specific recommendations) of course!

I'm also more than happy to kick start the thread myself, and I can then tag you and anyone else that might be interested. Whaddaya reckon?

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Thank you kindly @PeppyPatti 🙂

Im not as quick or adept as I used to be pre brain injury, however I sometimes can access vast amounts of information that I gathered prior, which is like a little window into a large library.
anyway, if you’d like a thread on sleep hygiene, apnoea, interactions, and devices, maybe we can see if anyone else is also interested..? 🙂

@Jynx @tyme @TAB @Shaz51 @Former-Member @tonys

And anyone else who thinks it’s of value..

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Hey @Jynx

if you think it’ll be handy, I think starting a thread about sleep hygiene, apnoea, equipment, interactions, and anything else sleep could be handy.

please allow me to clarify: medication interactions are nothing to do with the specific meds used to induce sleep per se; it’s about any class of med that creates a barrier to healthy sleep (be it keep you awake or cause breathing problems, or some other issue), and not a named drug. That’s where I can come in with helpful evidence based supportive info. In this context, no names, doses, or other specified info is necessary in the parameters of the discussion type.

feel free to start if you like, and I’ll kick off with informative posts when I receive a tag (starting with copying in my posts already discussed)

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am not using machine anymore @Former-Member rather not think about it tbh. think am better off exercising more and eating more fruit and veg . slept most of night last night plus most of day today lol

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