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Living with Loneliness

Living with Loneliness

Feelings of loneliness occur when there is a mismatch between the amount of meaningful social connection we want and the amount we have. So while loneliness can be caused by isolation, it can also be felt when surrounded by people, and in friendships, family and intimate relationships. It is a personal feeling of social isolation

Loneliness can be really hard to manage and studies have shown it can lead to poorer physical and mental health. Physically, loneliness can cause low energy, poorer sleep, headaches, worse experience of physical pain and addiction. Mental health wise, it can cause anxiety, depression, poorer self esteem and thoughts of suicide. Often this can even lead to further isolation and feelings of loneliness for each person.

In Australia, 1 in 3 people report feeling lonely and socially isolated. This means that there is a chance many of us here on the forums experience loneliness, especially given that many of us have or care for those with lived experience of complex mental health concerns. It’s important for us to share that experience and find connection and support.

Questions for the community:

  1. What does loneliness look like for you?
  2. How does loneliness feel and how does it impact your wellbeing?
  3. Are the periods of the day or year when loneliness is harder to manage?
  4. What have you done to manage loneliness, do you have tips for others?

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We recognise that loneliness is experienced differently for everyone and we welcome all stories this space. Please remember to be safe and respectful of eachother, you can find the guidelines here. If you experience any distress whilst reading along with this discussion, please reach out to Lifeline 13 11 14 or the SANE Help Centre to speak to a counsellor.

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thankyou @Tilz @Bunniekins n All . Book keeper came home and fixed up my spelling mistake.

Lushes, meant to be luscious. spell check always digs me deeper. can't spell to save my life.

I better get back to work.. Have a beautiful evening everyone. tonys..

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@tonys beautiful swaying of the soul, moved by your words, as always 🙂🌺

I was reading some short stories I wrote before I received an acquired brain injury (I was tidying up a bookshelf and discovered them sleeping there) and realised much of the ebb and flow of language as an emotion has gone from my brain. I didn’t recognise my own words but for the neat handwriting I used to have before the shake induced by damage.
This three dimensional piece of writing of yours which you’ve kindly shared has brought a rare glimpse into a world mostly closed off behind walls that were built the day I was injured.
For this I owe you a heartfelt thanks 🙂🌺🦩

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Hello @Former-Member ,, I would not be so sure about those walls you speak of. I read between the space of your words and wonder if all that is needed is one deep breath, to rekindle your embers.

A few years ago, the long, sleep sickness, had me buttressed, to a, time and confidence, deep freeze.

I, like you, have those dusty boxes, upon boxes of, pre apocalypse paper. And now its a constant

battle not to give in and reach for them. But post apocalyptic work is a must, and I so hope you... try.

I have no idea really of proper spelling, grammar, average bag of words. But still, I send paper kites

every day to anyone who'll take them. Funny thing is. . . the screwed up ball of papers I throw in the bin, is often the rubbish they want more of. Mate . . . I would give, Anything... for your word bag.

You won't forgive me for saying this, but I feel it is incumbent upon you to share at least some of the dust from your stories with us. I have a dude that I owe half a dozen short stories too, and mate..

I shouldn't laugh but, I still haven't finished them. Told him a month, then blocked his number. He will, get them but I don't have your skill at narrative. I'm 4 dimension guy, and unless you get lucky

with someone wanting lyrics for rap or crap tunes, its a ticket to weight loss.. Please make use of your gifts @Former-Member . .

Hey @Oaktree How's yours coming along. You had a peach of an Idea. Hope your into it. Gravy.

I haven't forgotten. Just have less than zero time lately. @Bunniekins .. You sound like you shed your grey Autumn leaves and already have spirited buds of spring about you. You'll have a beaut winter between, to be sure my friend.

@StuF I'm going to wish you the best birthday now, just in case I miss you on you special day.

I have another "thing" to attend to this weekend, so I just say now. Have a beauty my friend.

Its a privilege knowing you. Come back safe.

@TAB all that excess brain clutter. Channel it all into those studies mate. Best wishes .

@Glisten the solicitor.. ? She sounds like a Tasmanian devil, You hire her..

@Former-Member .. Got Your letter on my wall n I'm working. . .Hard to it.. Hope you and @Historylover

@Emelia8 @ENKELI @LoveandHope @Meowmy @Shaz51 and @Tilz thanks Tilz...

@PeppiPatty @cloudcore eye of the storm, just magic.. @saturnzoon and all the other

Street injured fauna, that come to heal in this place.. find peace and kindness .

I'll be a bit sparce for a week or 3 . My lazy ass is actually working .. bye gentle souls..

@Jynx Is a favour asked twice, once to often. A Spare room at the motel . . ? Bless you mate.. tonys..

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Thanks @tonys

(A little secret, you've ended up wishing me On the special day. Thanks!)

🙂

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Wishing you a happy birthday to @StuF 😊 Hope it is close my friend

Hey @tonys 😁

@Former-Member , @Tilz thinking you are awesome here 😎

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Happy Birthday @StuF

Hope it has been wonderful!

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Oh I'm freaking out today - but just read your post -

Iv had acquired head injury - multiple scars through my brain, non essential tremor in my hands, sometimes through body, get very overwhelmed easily.

I do feel isolated because for many years I didn't understand why I go on a tangent all the time while speaking.

@Former-Member did you work before your head injury or study ?? Please don't answer if I'm triggering you.... 🌹🌿

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Hey @PeppyPatti ,

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry you have experienced this difficulty in your like. It sounds like the ABI was quite challenging for you as you didn't understand its effects.

Are there things that help you navigate life a bit better?

Please know we are here if you need a chat.

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Grande Suite for you, always @tonys 😊

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Hey there @PeppyPatti 🙂🌺

Hopefully my post was a reassurance and grounding for you 🙂

I also feel those same symptoms - simply because, and I say it with gentleness, our brains aren’t the same anymore 💜💜🌺

Tangents are fun - never feel bad for who you are now sweets, we are the glorious differences that mainstream society cannot yet see 😍🫂🌺

There are many of us with brain injury; we often don’t say a word for fear of discrimination and stigmatisation. Times they are a’changing, and you completely matter, have the same value as others without TBI/ABI, and you have the ox inside the flamingo that pushes hard for justice behind the scenes for us 🙂💜

I worked before brain injury.. I was working an IT role, actually it was two roles in one (one in purchasing and one in sales) when the company was short staffed. I was also studying in the evenings, and working as a manual therapist on the weekends. I used to be a fitness model, and I used to ride motorcycles on race tracks (called track days) for funzies.
When I was run over (no fault of my own - hit and run), I lost myself for a few years, but after pushing hard to recover on my own (no medical or other supports at all), I went to uni. Was hard. I did it.
I’m back at uni now.
And please never worry about triggering me - that just doesn’t happen with genuine curiosity and said with compassion as you have today 🙂🌺

ask me anything, as you please

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