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oceangirlSenior Contributor
I am at crossroads and I don't know what to do or who to turn to.And I find it so hard to trust and to open up to anyone. For the most part I feel terrible and struggle to function day to day.. Do others have similar experenices and or concerns?
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MDTSenior Contributor
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DaisysmumCasual Contributor
I really struggle to function day to day as well. I'm sort of on autopilot, as that's the only way I can get anything done, going through the motions. I can only really handle one thing at a time, so I just think, what needs to be done right now, in this moment? And I get it done. Everything is so hard though. Testing my blood glucose levels for my gestational diabetes, eating, getting dressed, going to work, going for walks, showering, cooking dinner. Rinse and repeat. I just want to stay in bed and hide from the world. I don't feel safe. I feel exposed and vulnerable.
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chibamSenior Contributor
@oceangirlOh yes, that's a very familiar predicament for me. 
Too many bad experiances in the past attempting to reach out to others. Too many times being exploited by people I hoped were going to help me - worst among them being therapists who I assumed were legally bound to help me to the best of their abilities.
A hundred times bitten, two hundred times shy. That's my situation.
And, as you say, without the help, it's impossible to overcome the problems and thus impossible to function. So what can we do?
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LostAngelSenior Contributor
Hey @oceangirl your definetly not alone with those types of feelings please hang in there as best you can ,many on the forums can empathise with this for sure,as for personal experience even when being on Medication for depression there are some days that are hard to function than other days,rest as much as you need,connesct with others when you need ,just do everything you can to take care of your personal needs as a valueable person,reach out for support,talk things out with us on the forums,maybe journaling could help with the feeling of being at a crossroads especially if theres important life decisons to be made,it sounds like you feel at a loss for what to do about your situation just please know your not alone stay safe and do the things that you need /self care maybe ,sending hugs your way 
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
ohh my sister @oceangirl
what is wrong , sitting with you xoxo
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Hi there @Daisysmum, Welcome to the SANE forums. I'm one of the moderators. Thanks for sharing with the community here. I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling disconnected and struggling with daily activities. Your 'right now' method is something I use a lot too when I'm struggling. Do you have any professional supports at the moment?
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oceangirlSenior Contributor
@Shaz51 @LostAngel @chibam @Daisysmum @MDT
Thank you for your messages
And hopefully we can create a space here and we can be vulnerable - and share what is affecting us. And we can support each other through this. You're not weak because you have a MI - in fact everyone as a mental component to their health. I do have strategies, I use, but sometimes its hard to even use them. I focus on one thing at a time too. I did thing about creating a list of things that I could do- that would help make me feel more at ease and in control- What are some things that bring you comfort?
Its difficult when you have a MI, and subsequently from accessing health care- you may experienced something negative, and also from people in your life. Just remmeber that is about them and not you. I understand and can relate to this. That why I wanted to create a space here- a place to come and also a soft place for you to fall and to feel supported.
A hundred times bitten, two hundred times shy. That's my situation.
And, as you say, without the help, it's impossible to overcome the problems and thus impossible to function. So what can we do? @Shaz51 @LostAngel @chibam @Daisysmum @MDT
You have summarised that very well. And asked a really good question. Its hard to know what to do for the best and who to turn to. We do have each other here. And in numbers we are powerful and we can pave the way for others accessing mental health. But also we can run things past each other and be here for each other when we are experiencing tough days and celebrate our achievements. And also share things that might help us function better and improve our quality of life. My hope is for a brighter future and creating memories. Lets focus on improving each others lives and creating a life that we are proud of- we all deserve this. Lots of love always OG
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MalusContributor
@oceangirl
I can relate to that feeling of overwhelm and confusion - dealing with complex mental health issues in Australia, at least, is tricky. Figuring out what those complex mental health issues even are in the first place is tricky, accessing the right help for it is tricky, navigating and maintaining recovery is tricky. All of it is tricky! That's the nature of recovery, though, and that is what makes us who lived with these conditions so valuable to others.
In my own experience, figuring it out simply took time - I had to figure out what my principal issue was (alcoholism) and attend to that first. That took years, haha. Having figured that out (and maintaining it with a daily set of actions) however, the rest of recovery is a bit less complex. Speaking to this concept, generally, I think it is important to identify which issue/s are clouding the mind and keeping us in the day-to-day 'I just need to survive and get through this moment' mindset - survival instinct. When we are just trying to survive, our animal brains are in overdrive and there is very little room for higher-order (front brain) thought - a debilitating place to exist in and one that I know well.
There is nothing simple about recovery, but that is what makes it beautiful - I believe you are more than capable of recovery and I believe that you deserve it. Go easy on yourself. I hope you find the help that you need 🙂 good luck
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