I feel very uneducated, stupid etc

Hello again @BlueBay

I hope that I am not making you feel worse.

You mentioned school ..

My son had a terrible time at school.. he had a difficulty with speech and felt embarrassed when he stuttered most of the time.

He was teased.

He felt that he was not the same as everyone else.

He was embarrassed to put his hand up

Do you think that I come across as different?

Harder to understand than everyone else on the forums?

@BlueBay

I am curious how you see me

I'm sorry about your son. That's terrible. I have just realised how bad I am. When my psychologist asks me a question and I don't understand I won't say anything snd chsnge the subject. Because I feel so stupid to ask her to explain as I'm in my 50's. I'm not a child so I should know.
@Sophia1

I haven't chatted to you in length before @Sophia1 but it's nice to know

It's me it's not you.
you're ok. It's me that doesn't understand.

Hello @BlueBay

I am glad that you are still here with me.

I am going to tell you that you are acting in an intelligent way by continuing to write to me about something that is very uncomfortable for you.

I know that you won't believe me.

I just want to tell you and for you to read those words.

I am not a child

I express myself..or speak differently to most people...

I have to explain myself several times.

I feel upset by this fact and am very sensitive.. I feel hurt.

I do not feel hurt talking to you.

@BlueBay @Sophia1 @Shaz51

I am going to weigh in too if I may. I am one of those people for whom writing comes very easily. Words have always been my best friend - as you can probably tell from those two sentences alone.

This does not mean I think less of anyone who doesn't write with the same ease as I.

This does not mean I cannot or will not see someone with different skills as an equal human.

Forums like this are difficult because you can't see a person's body language or hear their tone of voice. If I think what someone has written can be taken in two ways I will ask a question.'

If I ever write something that anyone doesn't understand, please please please ask me to write it in a different way, using different words. My partner and his two sons all have autism to varying degrees and I often have to word the same message in three different ways so that they all understand what I'm trying to say.

NEVER NEVER NEVER feel stupid or inadequate because you don't always get what someone writes on the internet.

ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ask someone what they mean if you're not sure.

xoxox

hi @Sophia1

I feel very sensitive

I feel pain of others

but I can't write properly

I'm sorry I think I'll go and have a coffee

I just don't feel great

Come back after my coffee

@Former-Member

@Shaz51 Thank you for your support

Hugs @Shaz51 xxoo

im back here @Sophia1 @SJT63 if you want to chat. You don't have to. It's ok.
rhsnks @SJT63 for your reply. I appreciate what you wrote.
trouble is I find it EXTREMELY hard to ask for help or ask someone to say it in easier language.

Hello @BlueBay

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@BlueBay wrote:

hi @Sophia1

I feel very sensitive

I feel pain of others

but I can't write properly

I'm sorry I think I'll go and have a coffee

I just don't feel great

Come back after my coffee

@Former-Member

@Shaz51 Thank you for your support

I will leave this message for you to read only if you want to when you are ready.

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Thank you I understand every single word.

You are writing clearly.

We all write differently.

I write too much.

I am sorry if this is not helpful. This is me.

You write less.. That is you.

Neither of us are stupid or hopeless or useless.

So you can be you and yes you are intelligent, even if you write a few words.

I can be me and be intelligent, even if I write too many words.

Bluebay you have a sensitive nature which shows that you care.

That is a wonderful way to be.

Other people who are extremely intelligent do not necessarily have a sensitive nature.

You cannot study for that.

You cannot buy that.

A person is born with that.

You have that.

It has nothing to do with intelligence.

Kindness, caring, loving, feeling other people's pain are all parts of who you are Bluebay. These are beautiful gifts that you have.

You are definitely not stupid..

Feeling flat, fed up, hopeless, useless.. often can cause us to feel different to everyone else.

This is actually very common ..

Our body is telling us to rest,....be kinder to ourselves...stop putting ourselves down...telling ourselves off...

which we all do ......

When you talk to your psychologist and you want to ask something. Ask.

Please do this with the kind, caring, loving, sensitive side of who Bluebay is, ....you asking the question.

If you do not understand an answer. Ask again.

The psychologist is the one who needs to change their answer. They have not understood you. They have to keep on changing their answer until you understand.

That is not because you are stupid or hopeless or useless at all.

They are not hearing what you are asking. They have the issue.

I hope that you enjoyed your coffee..

If I have not written far too long an answer...I would love to keep in touch with you @BlueBay

If you would like to..

Oh lovely @BlueBay

You came back..

That makes me feel good now..

I felt sad for you..

Sophia 💛