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Sadness

Sadness

This fortnight we will discussing our third emotion, sadness.

Previously we have discussed the emotions of anger and fear, and looked at how these emotions have shown up for us, how they feel physically in our body and how we manage them. This fortnight we will be doing the same for the blue section of the wheel.

Sadness is an emotion that we have all felt, and it is essential to our survival. From our time as a child, sadness is there to communicate our distress. As adults, sadness works to let us know that we need to grieve after being hurt and to seek out those who love and support us.

While other “negative emotions,” like fear and anger seem to prepare us for flight, fight, or avoidance, etc - the benefits of sadness can be harder to understand. Sadness is a signal for help or comfort, and can motivate or prompt us to overcome challenges and make choices that improve our life.

Feeling sadness

Sadness is often a result of another feeling, such as anger, stress, anxiety or hopelessness. Sometimes, the other feeling may be so strong that you don’t realise you are sad.

When we think about sadness, ways we might describe it include “I feel depressed”, “I feel hurt”, “I am lonely”, “I feel guilty”, and “I feel broken hearted”. It is important to note, however, that experiencing sadness is different to having depression. Sadness, like other emotions, is temporary and fades away with time.

When we can identify how sadness shows up for us, and some of the signs we might be experiencing sadness, we can take steps to manage the emotion and seek out support that may be helpful for us.

This discussion will talk about themes such as sadness and grief, and topics that could be upsetting or triggering for those reading along. There are questions we have planned ahead of time to keep this conversation safe and constructive, but if at any time you feel distressed, you are welcome to reach out to our peer support or counselling services for additional support.

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Q2. Sadness shows up in my life as a kind of disconnect from my daily purpose and activities. As a result I tend to do less and over think. I become almost numb to joy and hyper sensitive to negative experiences, however small.

@cloudcore

Edited to add: This disconnection seems to appear when I am feeling tired, misunderstood and/or isolated from others.

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@cloudcore wrote:

Hi @JungleGiants and @NatureLover , it's complete okay to give this discussion a miss

I'm also sorry to hear that things have been difficult at the moment @NatureLover , please know you can tag me whenever you need support. Here for you


Thank you so much, @cloudcore , I'll remember that 🙂 💜

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At the moment I'm feeling:

Isolated

Abandoned

Grief

powerless

empty (or rather that the world is empty)

inferior

For me, it tends to come hand-in-hand with anxiety as well.

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Hi @jsm74 ,

I hear that you are experiencing these feelings today, which can be a really hard space to sit in. How have you managed and coped with it all?

Here with you

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Lonely

depressed

isolated

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Thanks for your message

Honestly I'm not coping well. I've felt this way every second of every day for 2 months now. I just don't know how to get past this or even distract myself. 2 months ago I was strong and muscular, now I just look weak and a bit malnourished. Therapy hasn't done much good so far, but I guess I need to give that time.

It does help to be heard, so I'm at least grateful for people like you.

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Hi @jsm74 ,

I can understand your struggle in coping with changes to your physical appearance, it is something that I have faced before too and it left me with a lot of feelings you described in your previous post. It can be really overwhelming. While it does take some time to work through, you can work through it, and you are not alone

If you ever feel like you need some extra support, I encourage you to reach out to to the SANE Help Centre or book a call/webchat with a peer support worker. They're great for those tougher moments and you just need someone to talk to.

from cloudcore

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Question 3:

What are signs that sadness is coming on? How does sadness feel physically in your body?

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I feel small, tired, cold, exposed. It is hard to find the right words, but maybe those ones come close.

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Sadness. I feel teary. Shoulders hunched. Slouching posture. I often feel an emptiness in my body, btwn my heart and gut. I cry. Cry. Cry.

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